Is DDLG a Kink? The Great Debate! [DDLG 101 Info.]

Hi My Friends!

Today we will be discussing a very heated topic: Is DDLG a kink? Some in the community think so, while others prefer not to be labeled as a kink. But why? Before I dive in with my opinion, let me share an experience a few months back that got me thinking of this very question. I was on Youtube watching Little streamers when I came across a DDLG couple under the name, Playpen Princess. Princess and her Daddy produced lovely content that mainly centered around non-sexual topics: eating in little space, playtime, story time, seeing Christmas lights, etc. Playpen Princess was also quite active on Instagram and was just starting to open up an Etsy shop. I really enjoyed watching her content and “how to” hairstyle videos.


Then one day… her content began changing. She and her daddy began making videos in response to hateful comments they had received on Instagram. I felt confused. Why would someone attack Playpen Princess and her daddy? What had they done to deserve the wrath of the internet? It all boiled down to one statement they made in a video. In it they openly stated that they do not consider their DDLG lifestyle to be a kink. They do not want to be associated with a kink. They do not like thinking about BDSM in any way, nor do they wish to have their little space be viewed as a sexual thing.

Alright friends, let’s pause here a moment because I’m sure we all have our opinions to share. Was Playpen Princess and her daddy correct in being able to state that DDLG is not a kink? Is it okay for Little Youtubers to produce content and then state that they are non-sexual and don’t want to be associated with the BDSM community? In order to understand this heated debate we must first examine what a “kink” actually is.

A kink: is a sexual taste or preference.

What Playpen Princess (and many other Littles who openly identify as non-sexual) are stating is that they do not view Little Space to be a sexual preference. They have other reasons for being an adult little that are outside of a sexual taste. And quite frankly, that’s okay! The answer to this great debate lies right in the middle of both opinions of the spectrum. If you gain sexual fulfillment or arousal through being a dominant attracted to a Little, or a Little in Little Space… then yes, DDLG/LB is a kink for you. As such, this kink falls under the umbrella of BDSM so you are a part of the community and that is perfectly fine! If you do not gain sexual arousal from being Little, or do not have a desire to incorporate sex into your Little Space, then no being Little is not a kink for you. That is perfectly fine too.

The bottom line is that you need to be comfortable with your own sexual preferences. As the Cg/l community, we need to come together to accept and welcome all paths on the Little spectrum. Let’s not divide ourselves by preference, age, race, gender, or any other means. We are one community and at the end of the day this debate is all about personal preference. Let’s support each other and all of our hashtags, whether you’re #kinklife or #sfwlittle. 🙂

That said, Playpen Princess and her daddy got so much hate and backlash online that they ended up deleting all of their online accounts. I’m not sure if they created a new channel somewhere else. But at the time of this writing I have been unable to find them elsewhere. To me, it’s a shame to see good DDLG content creators leave because others send such hate their way. If you do see something that bothers you, use constructive criticism. Treat others the way you want to be treated. We can all learn from each other and as a community that already is highly misunderstood it is imperative that we band together more than ever.

So what do you think? Do you believe DDLG is a kink? Comment and let me know or find me at littlepennyberry on Instagram and send me a message! I can’t wait to hear from you! 🙂

~Penny Xx


  1. This is something which confuses me. Personally, I don’t understand why there seems to be this concept that CGL or DDlg relationships must fit into the BSDM category? Why can’t the couple just really likes the Daddy and little girl dynamics between each other without him having to be her Dom and she his submissive? Personally, I don’t think they have to automatically be in a Bdsm community or associate it with kink if it doesn’t suit them. Great post and thanks for sharing your perspective!

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    1. You make an excellent point and I appreciate your comment! 🙂 There are many couples who I’ve met that are non-sexual DD/lg and prefer not to be associated with the kink lifestyle and the BDSM umbrella as a whole. There are social media groups just beginning to blossom for this community too, and I can’t wait to touch upon this on my blog so stay tuned for more! 😉


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