Hi My Friends!
Today I want to discuss how we receive and accept love from a dominant. Today’s post is inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman’s bestseller, “The Five Love Languages”. If you’ve never read it before, I highly encourage you to do so. You can also head over to The 5 Love Languages website and take a FREE quiz to find out what your love language is. Dr. Chapman writes about the basic ways that humans accept and receive love. Regardless of gender or orientation, we all fall into one or more of these categories.
In a Cg/l relationship the dynamic can be slightly different. There are many Cg/l couples who are long distance. Others are completely non-sexual. There are babysitter pairings, and those who are solo Littles. The Cg/l spectrum varies widely, but I believe that we all are seeking love in some fashion and therefore these love languages of Littles apply to any situation. So let’s dive in together! 🙂
- Praise from their dominant. This Little is highly motivated by receiving praise from their daddy/mommy. Nothing is more satisfying then hearing, “Good girl/boy” after doing a task successfully. This love language is all about getting compliments to fill their emotional needs, and being thanked for their service after an intimate play session. Nothing melts this Little’s heart more then hearing their dominant say, “I love you” as they are being held.
- Receiving small gifts or love notes. This Little loves to get special presents from their dominant. When daddy/mommy picks up a little surprise while out and about, this Little squeals with glee. While some might view this love language as materialistic, in truth, this Little just loves the feeling of being pampered. When they receive a gift from their mommy/daddy, they know that their dominant was thinking about them while apart. Love notes are especially thoughtful to this Little and it wouldn’t be surprising if they kept every plushie, every note, and tiny trinket purchased for them since the beginning of the relationship.
- Getting undivided attention. This Little is all about time being spent together. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing, as long as, the focus remains on the Little. If they have your undivided attention then they are happy. This Little is notorious for distracting their mommy/daddy when they are gaming, watching TV, or playing on the computer. They feel most loved when their dom/domme is looking them in the eyes giving them their complete attention and focus.
- Lots of physical touch and cuddles. This Little prefers physical touch over a lengthy conversation. They feel most at ease when their mommy/daddy is holding their hand, pulling them into their lap, or resting a hand on their thigh while in the car. While words of love and affirmation might soothe other Littles, this Little prefers physical touch above all else. A long hug, a passionate kiss, a night of making love is something this Little needs regularly. They crave physical touch in varying forms from their dominant and may openly state that they are just a “touchy feely person”.
- Getting pampered by daddy or mommy. This Little loves getting surprised with small acts of kindness done for them by their dominant. It isn’t all about the gifts for this Little. Instead they prefer being tucked into bed just how they like it, or their dominant surprising them with purchasing all of their favorite Little Space snacks. They adore their dom/domme when they go out of their way to do small things that make their life easier. Those little bits of “pampering” ease the Little’s life and make it that much easier to feel small.
As you explore within yourself what your love language is, be kind to yourself. There isn’t a “right way” to accept and receive love from your dominant. Every one is different and all love languages are healthy paths. Convey your feelings to your mommy/daddy and get them to take the 5 love languages quiz to find out their love language too! Understand that you may have more then one love language. This is perfectly normal. As we increase our self-awareness we become more in touch with who we are, and what our emotional needs may be.
I hope you all enjoyed this post. Stay tuned for more and until then, keep smiling my friends!