An Interview with an S&M Couple! [BDSM Interview]

Hi My Friends!

One of the things that I’ve been itching to write about on my site are the many paths within the BDSM spectrum. How one D/s couple looks, can be (and is usually), entirely different from another couple. That said, I have a very good friend named Baby who is married to her husband, Sir. Baby and Sir are into S&M and given that they are so different from Daddy and I, I wanted the chance to interview them to get a deeper understanding of the world of Sadism and Masochism. I hope you all enjoy this post, because I loved learning so much from them! 🙂

~Penny Xx

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An Interview with an S&M Couple:

Sir’s Age: 33 years old

Baby’s Age: 27 years old

Basic BDSM Questions:

  1. How long have you been involved in BDSM?

Baby: I’ve been involved in BDSM for 9 years.

Sir: I got involved with BDSM when I met Baby over a year ago.

  1. At what age did you first become exposed to BDSM and how did that experience first come about?

Baby: I saw a woman wearing a collar in public when I was 16. I asked my mom what that was. She said people have different preferences and left it at that. My first experience was at 19 when I tried rope.

  1. How do you personally identify within the BDSM spectrum? (Dom/Sub/Switch) and (Masochist, Little, Slave, Domestic Servant, Kajira, Pleasure Slave) and (Master, Sir, Top, Daddy, Owner)

Baby: I’m a sub/slave/Little-Middle.

Sir: I am a Master/Sir.

  1. Do you have a contract with each other?

Both: No. We are all verbal. No written contract since we are strictly monogamous.

  1. Do you use safe words when in play?

Baby: Yes. Banana when I can speak, and two slaps to his thigh when I can’t.

  1. What is one BDSM resource that you would recommend for others new to the lifestyle?

Baby: I think you should always consult experienced practitioners.

Masochist Lifestyle:

  1. When did you first discover that you’re a masochist?

Baby: I was 20 and got in a fight. She hit me and I laughed.

  1. What is your most memorable experience as a masochist?

Baby: Learning anal with Sir. I was a complete beginner.

  1. How long have you identified as a masochist?

Baby: 7 years privately, and 1 year publicly.

  1. What forms of bondage and punishment have you explored?

Baby: Impact play, predicament, toy torture, orgasm torture, testing pain tolerance.

  1. What is your favorite tool of punishment?

Baby: Steel cuffs

  1. Describe your ideal play scene.

Baby: My ideal play scene would be a calm, quiet room filled with furniture like a St. Andrew’s Cross, a spanking bench, and a rack of toys and whips. I want Sir to run me through to my very limits. Then a massage, bath, and cuddling for aftercare.

  1. Do you condition your body to building a tolerance for pain? And if so, how?

Baby: No. I’ve always had a high pain tolerance.

  1. Is there a form of S&M that you and your daddy have practiced over and over to perfect in the bedroom?

Baby: Yes. Anal endurance!

  1. What does it feel like to dance on the line between pain and pleasure?

Baby: It’s like a drug. Addictive and powerful.

  1. Have you ever been punished, or had to do a task for Sir, while he was away at work?

Baby: I send photos when he wants, take care of the house, lay out his clothes, and bathe him in the shower.

Other questions about Masochism:

  1. Do you believe that masochists are, by nature, perfectionists?

Baby: Yes, in my experience, I believe they are.

  1. Do you believe that masochists have a difficult time saying no? If so, why?

Baby: Yes and no. It depends on the masochist. Me? No. I know my hard limits.

  1. Do you ever engage in “vanilla sex”? Or have you reached a point where vanilla sex just doesn’t do it for you anymore?

Baby: Yes! Any sex with Sir is amazing. Hard scenes are planned. Vanilla sex is more spontaneous.

  1. What advice would you give others who are interested in exploring S&M?

Baby: Always do your research and talk to those with experience. Brush up on safety knowledge and be prepared for things to go wrong. Have scissors for rope play. Never be embarrassed! Always keep it safe, sane, and consensual. And regularly discuss what those words mean with those you play with. Never abuse trust and always respect safety words!

Sadist Lifestyle:

  1. When did you first discover that you’re a Sadist?

Sir: I discovered that I was a Sadist when I met my wife over a year ago.

  1. What is your most memorable experience as a Sadist?

Sir: Collaring my wife formally on 12/16/2018.

  1. How did you train yourself to know your submissive’s pain threshold?

Sir: I trained myself through the use of safe words, and a gradual little by little increase in pain.

  1. What forms of bondage, punishment, and discipline have you explored? What forms did you enjoy as a couple? And what forms didn’t work?

Sir: We haven’t had any negative experiences so far. She likes it all.

  1. What is your favorite tool to use as a Sadist?

Sir: Honestly? My hand. It stings us both.

  1. What is one item in the future that you want to use on your submissive, and why?

Sir: Electro stimulation. Shock wands. It’s new to us both.

  1. Have you ever been to a BDSM or S&M Convention? Are you interested in attending a community event?

Sir: No, I’m not too sure about that.

  1. What sensation, or feeling do you get when you are engaged in a heavy play session, and you know that the physical pain you’re giving your sub. Is also the very thing that is creating intense pleasure? (Describe a Sadists mindset in the heat of the moment).

Sir: Euphoria.. lasting euphoria.

Other Questions About Sadism:

  1. How do you think someone discovers that they are a Sadist by nature?

Sir: I can’t speak for everyone, but for me it was just exposure. Pain is pleasure and pleasure is pain.

  1. What are your views on “vanilla sex” now that you’ve fully experienced sex, regularly, as an S&M couple?

Sir: Vanilla sex is still fine. You have to keep variety. You’ve got to keep variety. And you have to find that happy medium between the kink and vanilla.

  1. What advice would you give others who are interested in exploring S&M?

Sir: As someone. Don’t go in blind. People get hurt and sent to prison that way!

 

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