An Interview with Papa Grizzly [BDSM Interview]

Hi My Friends!

My friend, Papa Grizzly from blog Erotic Musings, was kind enough to allow me to interview him. I love asking people questions and then sitting back as they share their stories, wisdom, and feedback. Papa happens to be a daddy dom. So for those interested in DDlg or Cg/l, this interview might pique your interest. Enjoy getting to know Papa Grizzly, and keep on smiling! 🙂

~Penny Xx

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Basic BDSM Questions: 

1. What is your age?
I’m 38
2. How do you identify on the BDSM Spectrum? (Sir/ Master/ Top/ Dominant/ Daddy)
I am a Daddy Dominant
3. What was your first exposure to BDSM and how did it make you feel?
I was invited to a local club with a dungeon, an it was a lot of fun.. I saw everything from vanilla to furries, to every form of bondage to whips an chains, everything.. Funny thing is, I felt right at home..
4. What do you think is most alluring, or what draws you to the lifestyle?
The fact that I have a community of people in the same type of things that I’m into an that I can be myself an if I have questions I have people to ask questions to an not be berated or belittled or bashed for what I love to do in my own time..
DDLG Questions: 
1. Have you ever had a D/s relationship? If so, what was your most positive experience about it, and did you have a contract in place with each other?
No, but I’ve always been curious..
2. What other roles have you played within the Cg/l Community? Give as much detail as you feel comfortable.
I’ve been a daddy to a few inexperienced littles and unfortunately all 3 of those relationships ended pretty badly.. I’m currently a babysitter for the most amazing little in the whole world an I love our dynamic an the relationship that we have..
3. What is the hardest thing about being a dominant? What is the most rewarding feeling being a dominant?
The hardest thing for me as a dom is remembering to always be in the mindset/headspace of a dom.. The most rewarding thing I would say is being loved unconditionally an treated like a real human being, not just the next fucktoy for someone..
4. What is the greatest misconception that the vanilla world thinks about Daddies? Have you ever had a negative experience within Cg/l or DDLG?
That we’re pedophiles an we’re sick in the head, homewreckers an such.. A few, but the biggest is vanilla people telling me off an that I should be locked up in the mental hospital for life an shit like that..
5. What is your preferred method of discipline? How did you come to learn that that method is your style?
Gettin down to your littles level, especially in little space, helps to mentally convey the message, there’s timeouts, other than that, I don’t like to degrade anyone if I can avoid it, but if that’s someones preferred punishment I guess I could do it.. I adopted my main method of gettin down to their level as I raised my siblings an later with my daughter..
6. When and how did you discover that you’re a Daddy as opposed to another form of domination? And do you view DDLG as a kink?
I knew I was a dom from the moment I began adapting to the discipline style I found worked, an it was later confirmed with my first an second little as they both responded very well to it..
Other Questions: 
7. What advice would you offer to new daddies or mommies?
First I would suggest reading an educating themselves an learning what type/style of caregiver they are, then I’d find a local club/dungeon an get to know more daddies/mommies, also online, an ask questions.. All the questions they can think of, ask, but not overwhelmingly asking..
8. What has been one helpful resource (book, website, etc.) that you came across that benefited your journey into BDSM or DDLG?
9. Have you ever been to, or would consider going to, a BDSM street fair, a Cg/l Convention, etc.?
YUUUUSSSSSSS!! I’ve wanted to go for so long but have never been near one to go..
10. I’m currently learning to be a better, more effective dom.. I have the best teacher ever too.. I’m not much into other types or styles of the BDSM lifestyle other than a sub/little.. Although I am not opposed to it, I’m just not interested..
10. What is one aspect of BDSM that you are most looking forward to exploring more, and why? Are there any other types of submissives that you’re interested in meeting people from that path/style?
I’m currently learning to be a better, more effective dom.. I have the best teacher ever too.. I’m not much into other types or styles of the BDSM lifestyle other than a sub/little.. Although I am not opposed to it, I’m just not interested..
11. Do you feel that BDSM porn or DDLG porn is a good representation of the community as a whole? Why or why not?
Not at all.. Because it never portrays a REAL dom to be a truly caring individual, an it truly is a disgrace to us daddies who really do try to be fulfilling to our littles in every way..
12. Lastly, what advice would you give to other dom’s who are looking for a Little or submissive?
Don’t be in a hurry.. Take your time, get to know that person for who they really are.. Learn their likes an dislikes.. Learn what their hard limits are.. If you treat it like a vanilla relationship, it is a vanilla relationship.. If you treat it like it’s gonna be a permanent relationship, it will be a permanent relationship..

 

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