Hi My Friends!
We are back with Part 3 of the “Diving into the Lifestyle” Cg/l relationship series! Today we will be focusing on the advantages of scheduling little space. Years ago I heard a podcast where the primary focus of the episode was why scheduling sex was bad. The author went on to say that by scheduling sex you lose the spontaneity, the excitement, etc. And to a degree I can understand. Sometimes you’re just feeling turned on and you want to get down to business. That’s completely natural. But in this day and age where people are juggling jobs, kids, bills, work, and so on, it’s important to schedule our needs into our daily routine. That way, we can ensure that those needs are met on a regular basis. So, too, is this the same with Little Space.
Little Space isn’t just a designated time where the adult regresses into a youthful mindset to play. It’s a space of healing, joy, self-expression, and fulfillment. For those that identify as a little, there is an intrinsic need to slip into the mindset to tap into that deep happiness. I was once asked what the difference between being normally happy in my adult side is, versus being happy while in Little Space. The best way I can describe it is with this analogy. Imagine ordering a scoop of your favorite ice cream in a cup. It’s delicious. It’s what you love, and you’re happy. You can savor it and in that moment feel happy and content. Now imagine ordering 5 scoops of your favorite ice cream in a sundae with the perfect toppings. Not only do you have the most epic sundae sitting in front of you, but it was designed in a glass to look like the most adorable animal! Now put rainbow sprinkles on top of the whipped cream.
Do you understand? There is happiness on both sides of being an adult (or “Big Me”) and “Little Me”. But within Little Space and age regression, everything looks brighter, more playful and whimsical, and super happy. Why? Because it’s all about feeling young again. It’s about entering a state of mind where you don’t have to think about adult issues while eating that single scoop of ice cream. Everything gets mentally compartmentalized to deal with later, and during your play session you can be little and have fun. That’s your only job.
So I would argue that if you’re a little, or the caregiver of a little, that it is an act of self-care to have little space on a regular basis. You should want to make space to be little. Carve out time for play or a chance to paint and color. If you’re in a place of still discovering what type of little you are, and playing with toys isn’t your thing, try coloring in an adult coloring book! It’s quiet and meditative, yet you can feel little in your mind as you color and create pretty pictures. There are ways to nurture that part of yourself on a regular basis, with whatever your current comfort level may be.
When it comes to little space I have to schedule my time to regress. Between my Daddy and I being super busy with the house, work, etc. we are always running. Dinner has to get made. The house needs to be tidied. And somehow there are always dishes in the sink that need washing. If I didn’t make time for Little Space, then it probably would never happen. That’s just the reality of being an adult little. So what do I do? I schedule it! I literally go into my calendar on my phone (that’s also synced up to my daddy/hubby’s phone) and I make little play sessions with him on the calendar. That way we are alerted to when a play session is coming up, and we can slow down to prepare for it.
Here are a few ways to schedule little space to ensure that you get some play time:
- Write play sessions down on a wall calendar and stick to it!
- Stick a post it note on your bathroom mirror reminding you to take time to be Little.
- Get involved with a Little play group locally. Having little friends will push you to make more time for play.
- Talk to your mommy/daddy and find out what their weekly schedule is. Then sit down and coordinate schedules to make space for play sessions. It might sound unromantic, but I promise you that it’s worth it!
The last point I’d like to discuss is scheduling little space when you’re in a D/s relationship. Once upon a time I used to think that you needed to just “naturally” slip into little space when it felt right. I was waiting for a trigger to push me into the head space so that I could ease into the mindset in the most organic way. And so I waited…. and I waited… and I waited some more! I soon discovered that sometimes, when something is a priority, you need to stop waiting and start doing! Little Space is a priority to me, so I plan for it and make space in my weekly calendar. I don’t worry about if something can “push” me into the mindset. I push myself! I also coordinate with my Daddy ahead of time reminding him that a play session is coming up. We both usually begin talking about what we’d like to do while I’m in little space. You would think that scheduling little space would diminish it’s fun factor, but instead we look forward to it like a gift that we get to unwrap every couple of days! 🙂
We discuss what activities we want to try while I’m little. I pull out books, paint supplies, maybe a new CD, etc. and prepare for it ahead of time. Other times we pack a picnic lunch and head to the beach. We take advantage of scheduling little space to plan and get excited for it! If we can do it, then I know you can too. Work together to ensure that little space becomes a regular activity that you both look forward to. Treat little space like a “break” from your normal adult thinking and do something completely different. If you know that there is a pressing issue, try to complete it ahead of time so that your mind is clear when the play session begins. In the end, by scheduling and making time for little space, your D/s relationship will thrive and grow by leaps and bounds.
Alright, that’s it from me for today, my friends. I hope you all enjoyed this post! Stay tuned for the next one, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂