Hi My Friends!
Today we are talking about sex. Let’s go there. The last time we spoke about sex, we discussed sex in terms of a D/s relationship and how to treat sex with the utmost respect. You can read all about that in part 5 of the “How to Build a D/s Relationship That Lasts” article. Today, we’re going to focus on falling into Little Space while having sex. Now for all of you beautiful littles who do not view age regression as a kink, cover your ears. 😉 For the rest of us, let’s dive in.
I. The Taboo Aspect of Age Regression:
For those who view being Little as a kink (or a sexual attraction/arousal) there is no doubt a taboo aspect to age regression. It is what most often gets misunderstood and even discriminated against, by the greater vanilla community. People assume that the sexual attraction from dominants is that they are attracted to children. This is NOT the truth! There is a fantasy of having a younger, playful boy/girl who loves, and adores you while in bed. I say fantasy, because the actual reality is that any intimate act within Cg/l is between two legal adults. I cannot stress this enough. But there is a fantasy both for the little and for the caregiver that is taboo, and therefore enticing. If you’ve ever watched hentai, then you can imagine the anime girls with pigtails, schoolgirl outfits, and knee high socks. They moan, squeal, and bat their large, innocent eyes. People want to replicate these fantasies into real life, and a Little is the perfect medium for allowing that to happen in a safe way.
There is a mental line that is suspended where the little regresses, assuming the role of a young, innocent, virginal child while the caregiver gets to tap into a humans primal tendencies to pursue their prey. It is naughty… delicious…. and taboo. We are so “hush hush” about these taboo thoughts and acts, but if I’m being completely honest, there is no shame in having sex in little space if done in a safe way.
II. The Power Shift in the Dynamic:
No moment is more powerful in a D/s relationship then when a couple first has sex in Little Space. The dominant, who usually is in control, suddenly becomes that much more powerful as their Little coos and is splayed beneath them. There is a level of vulnerability that occurs naturally when having sex that is more pronounced during Little Space sex. The Little is exposed and falls within a head space of being tender and tiny, like prey to their dom. The dom can look upon their Little with both love and intense desire as they take them completely and connect of the deepest level.
III. How to Stay in the Head Space During Sex:
Now I’m going to be honest, it can be quite the challenge to stay in the head space while having sex. This is especially true if you’re really getting pounded. The pleasure can become so much that you go from soft moans, to shouting out commands and desires of what you want your partner to do to you. And while that may be what your soul craves in that moment, shifting to shouting out commands in the bedroom isn’t very little. So here’s a few tips to stay in the mindset while having sex:
- Focus on the role you’re playing. While the pleasure washes over you and you’re in the heat of the moment, keep a mental check on being Little.
- Act in a way that is little. Don’t just moan to your partner… yelp. Make soft yelps to encourage them to continue.
- Talk dirty to them while being little. You can whimper softly while saying, “Dada, it’s too tight!” or “Don’t look at my princess parts!”. By using your Little voice/ baby babble while speaking dirty to your partner, you’re actually pushing them to fall into their head space as your caregiver. It can be an incredibly arousing experience for you both.
- If you’re into pet play, try having primal sex. You still assume the role of a Little, except that you become almost non-verbal. Instead, assume the role of whatever animal you prefer (kitten, puppy, etc.) while your partner assume the “predator” role to you. Use your natural instincts to pursue your partner. Go as rough (or not) as you’d like. Some couples love to swat (lovingly) and get rough and tumble within primal play, while others love to nip at the back of the littles neck to trigger submission to the dom.
The bottom line is that it’s all about how you speak to your dom while in bed. Use your little space voice to your advantage, because it will greatly enhance the experience.
IV.: Little Space Sex is 90% Foreplay and 10% Sex:
Just as any great play begins with setting the scene, so too, will you set the scene with your dom for sex in Little Space. In truth, having sex while in little space is mostly about foreplay and less about the actual intercourse. It’s about dressing up in a cute outfit and falling into little space. It’s about treating your dom as your daddy/mommy and putting them in the head space too. Have fun with each other as your hands roam and explore each others bodies. Sit on their lap and feel small as they tease sensitive areas on your skin and make you squirm. Try easing into sex while being little, by being playful and naughty, as you give oral to your partner or have them do it to you. By the time you both are ready to have sex, you’ll be more than warmed up.
V.: Using Props and Clothing to Enhance the Experience:
Sex scenes in movies usually portray both partners completely naked. And I get it, people want to see other people naked. We’re just curious human beings. It’s natural. But sex in little space is an illusion. You aren’t really a child. You’re simply regressing in age to act like a child. Therefore, using clothing such as: onesies, knee high socks, tiny skirts, overall jumper dresses, youthful t-shirts, kawaii outfits, etc. to help enhance the visual experience for you and your partner. By dressing little, you become the focal point of the moment and play scene. Try wearing a onesie without any panties. Then, when you’re both ready, have your partner unsnap your onesie between your legs to penetrate you. Leave the onesie on during sex. You’ll feel so much more Little and be able to stay in the head space easier. Trust me. If onesies aren’t your thing, try wearing cute socks that make you feel small. Or, you can wear panties with the days of the week written on them. Whatever you wear, make sure it makes you feel Little so that you can slip into that state of mind, and be open towards your caregiver.
Another suggestion I would give to enhance little space sex are props. You can use items such as: a butt plug tail, a ball gag, a collar with a bell, pet ears, a baby rattle, baby lotions, mittens, a baby bottle, etc. to deepen the play scene. If you don’t happen to have these items on hand, don’t fret. At the end of the day it’s all about how you act and treat each other. The clothing and props just enhance the experience. They aren’t a “deal breaker”. 🙂
VI.: Releasing Your Inner Slut:
Some people dislike the word slut. I guess I can understand why. When a person is promiscuous they are usually called a slut. But, there is a deeply, satisfying feeling that comes with acting like a slut with your caregiver during a sex scene while in little space. But before I explain, I have to preface this paragraph. Never assume that your partner wants to be treated (or wants to treat you) like a slut or be called dirty names, unless you ask! Remember step 1 of the “healthy ways to have a play scene”: communication and consent! Ask before you call your little any dirty names. Get their consent to it before you dive in.
That said, now let’s examine releasing your naughty side with your caregiver. There is a thrilling feeling that comes with knowing that your daddy/mommy wants you sexually. Assuming you’re in a monogamous, safe, grounded, stable D/s relationship, and you both want to have sex with each other, then there are many ways to play around and really make a play session hot and sexy. While in the head space, try sucking on your caregiver’s thumb. It keeps you feeling small while sending sensations through their body that mimic giving head. Be playful with it. Let their thumb brush over your lips as you give them a naughty look with your eyes.
As you move into oral sex things can really heat up. Some couples might prefer to incorporate roleplaying fantasy scenes while together such as: teacher-student, doctor-patient, or student-stranger. Get creative and let your imagination wander! You can give your daddy oral sex but instead of swallowing his cum, ask him to finish on your face. It’s not about the thrill of having cum on your face. It’s about giving your caregiver the experience of taking a common fantasy (as often depicted in porn) and bringing it to life with you on your knees, in a onesie, mouth open and ready to take their load on your face.
Other littles relish the feeling of being spanked while in little space. You can take this to the next level by using spanking as a tool for pleasure instead of punishment. Purchasing a riding crop from Amazon (for about $11 USD) is an excellent tool to use. It delivers the sound of a smack without much sting behind it. Your caregiver would really have to whack you to deliver some bite to the smack. But the crop creates a sound that makes it appear as if you’re being paddled intensely, which can deepen arousal. If you don’t have, or want to use tools against your skin you can always opt for your caregivers hand. Their hand might sting when they spank, but that’s part of the experience. With red prints across your rump, you’re sure to be turned on in no time.
Lastly, I want to discuss ass play. Anal sex can be painful if not done properly, so be sure to go slow, listen to your little’s cues, and use a ton of lubricant. Try beginning with a small jelly or silicone plug to begin stretching the anus. You can also opt for fingers to explore and begin stretching your partner’s behind. Once your ass is used to having a plug, then you can switch to something more playful (like a tail-plug!) to deepen the experience before having anal sex together.
Whew! I know this was a long post, my friends, so thank you for sticking it out with me. 🙂 I sincerely hope you enjoyed it. That’s it from me for today. I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday, stay tuned for the next post, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂