Hi My Friends!
It’s Day 3 of the “100 Days of Dom-Sub Bonding” and today I want to talk about the power of laughter. When my Daddy and I first met, one of the things I noticed about him immediately is that he had a great sense of humor. Cheesy jokes… dirty jokes… one liners… you name it, and he can pull it out of his proverbial hat. Laughter is what helped us connect on our very first date too. I’ll share with you this funny story and how a silly moment turned into a fond memory that forever bonded us together.
6 years ago we went out on our first date. I was so nervous. I had never dated an Asian man before, and for the life of me I couldn’t understand (nor see) what he liked in me. I felt self-conscious and ugly. Unlike a traditional date, we were living in separate states at the time, so he flew up for the weekend and stayed at a resort where I was supposed to meet up with him. Romping through the snow towards me, we hugged and I let out a giggle. He was hot. Really hot. Now unlike him, I was dressed for the weather (meaning I had approximately 5 layers of practical clothing on). He, on the other hand, was looking sharp in slacks, nice shoes, a sweater, and his wool coat. I felt very under-dressed, but he never said a word.
As we got back to the resort, the date was going smoothly. I wanted to act “cool” and carry my own bag to show him that I wasn’t high maintenance (even though he offered). We got to our room and that moment was rapidly approaching where I knew he wanted to kiss me. Now let’s pause here for a moment. When you think about it, kissing is amazing, right? It’s sensual… and slow… and you get to express emotion through your body. But the actual physical aspect of kissing always makes me nervous! Do I turn my head right or left? Do I part my lips a little? Do I go in for the kiss, or wait and let him come to me?! I get so nervous!
So there I was about to be kissed. He inched ever closer, his eyes locked on me. My heart was pounding like a Japanese taiko drum. And then…. I FROZE!
You guys, I completely blanked! I forgot to move my mouth… AT ALL! My face turned red. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die. He pulled back and looked into my eyes curiously. “Um..” he said softly, “Are you okay?”. I nodded, beginning to tear up. “What… was that?” he asked nervously. “I.. dunno!” I squeaked, now covering my face. He gently began to giggle. I peered at him through my fingers. “You got nervous, didn’t you?” he asked grinning and looking totally relaxed. I nodded again. Taking my hands from my face, he placed his hands to my cheeks and smiled. “Let’s try that again, shall we?” he said…
And the rest was history. So I guess I nailed the second kiss. 🙂
But my point in all of this is that the power of laughter and having a sense of humor is so important to use in life. There will be moments of awkwardness, frustration, confusion, and embarrassment. Remember to not take things so seriously. (And this is coming from a type-A personality!). Laugh with each other. Bond and reconnect over the silly stuff in life. There is a lot of hilarious things to see all around you. Here are a few ways to incorporate more humor into your D/s couple time:
- Tell each other jokes.
- Look at or share memes with each other via text
- Watch stand up comedy together on TV or in person
- Make jokes about the every day things in life
- People watch, then make funny commentary to each other pretending to act out each person that passes by.
Today’s Day 3 activity is a mad libs story. I love mad libs because they are so silly! With just plugging in a few words to a story, you’ll be reading it back and laughing until you cry. I hope you enjoy this bonding activity as much as we did! 🙂
That’s it from me for today, my friends. Stay tuned for the next post. Have a wonderful Thursday, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂