Day 5: Draw a Picture of How You See Your Partner [100 Days of Dom-Sub Bonding]

Hi My Friends!

I hope you all are having a great weekend. Today’s activity is all about perception. There is no doubt that we are our worst critics. We can tear ourselves down at the drop of a hat. I know I’ve done it a million times. But as I’ve gotten a bit older, I have come to realize that self-love is an incredibly important skill to develop. Yes, we want to put forth our best effort into things. Yes, we like to be “on point” with our skills, and I dare say strive for perfection. However, we also need to make space for self-love and praising ourselves too.

When it comes to our physical looks we can also be harsh. We analyze every physical feature on our bodies and wish that it were different. We compare ourselves to popular celebrities (who likely had surgical procedures to get said look!) which only results in us feeling more down about ourselves. The cycle can be devastating to our self-esteem. Many times we think we are far uglier than the reality. In truth, you are beautiful. You are are sexy, and your partner sees that in you.

For today’s exercise, I want you to sit down face to face with your dominant or submissive. Using a blank piece of paper and coloring materials, begin to draw your partner as you see them. You could draw their face, or their body. Or perhaps you want to go more abstract with your drawing, and draw how you perceive them to be? You could draw what you think their aura is, or what energy they project unto the world. There are many ways to interpret these instructions, but the focus is for you to see that how you see yourself isn’t really how things are.

As you see your partner’s drawing, reflect on how you feel. Ask yourself a few of these questions:

  • Do I need to make more space in my life for self-love?
  • What can I do to improve my self-esteem?
  • Can I trust my partner enough, to see myself through their eyes, and begin to love myself more fully?

I hope you all enjoy this exercise, my friends. The bottom line is: you are enough! Right here, right now, you are enough! You are enough for your Dom/sub. And you are enough for the world. You are beautifully made. Never forget that. ❤

As promised, my Daddy and I also drew pictures of each other this morning over a cup of tea. This is how they turned out:


My Daddy represents the place in my world that is calm, quiet, and relaxing. I turn to him for strength and he helps me to learn to chill. Our love is quiet, simple, and sure. After being together for 6 years he has taught me the meaning of slowing down and enjoying the simple things in life, and I love that about him.


Daddy drew me as a kitten because, well, I’m a kitten! I’m not actually a feline… but my sub name is kitten, and I looove everything that has to do with cats. I’m also a pirate at heart. I love sailing and living by the ocean. I’m happiest when out on the water, and my ultimate dream is to live on a sailboat. 🙂 I can also be found with a journal and pen in hand almost 24/7 *giggles*

This bonding activity was an absolute blast to do with my Daddy. We loved giggling over our pictures of each other and just grinning as we sketched. I hope you all love this activity as much as we did. That’s it from me for today, my friends. Stay tuned for the next post. Have a wonderful weekend, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂

~Penny Xx


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