Hi My Friends!
I have to rant tonight. My fingers are itching at the keyboard with this rant that is just sitting on my heart ready to bust out, so here we go. Without mentioning names, I have a dear friend who came to me recently about a situation they are navigating. In the conversation they were telling me how they recently met someone and within days the person blurted out, “I love you” to them which caught them off guard. Now let’s pause here a moment because we’ve all been there. There’s always a risk when you are the one initiating those feelings of desire, by proclaiming your love for another person. We say “I love you” because we assume the person is going to say “I love you too”.
But isn’t that a form of unconscious manipulation?
Let’s examine this another way. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you love them if that is what you’re truly feeling. If you’ve sorted through your feelings and deciphered between the raging, wild feelings of lust and temptation versus true, unconditional love, and you come to the realization that you do, in fact, love that person… then tell them! Say, “I love you!” because you know that you sincerely mean it. But, say it without the expectation of reciprocation. Say it with the freedom of expressing your emotions to another human being that you are giving love, and they will return the level of love that they are capable of giving. Not some expected form or forced feelings that only make things awkward in the end.
There should be an acceptable rule where if someone says “I love you” to you, and you don’t feel the same, that you can reply: “Wow, thank you! I am so grateful for your love.” It’s honest, raw, and still kind. You don’t lead the person on into thinking that you love them. You’re true to your emotions that you don’t share the same level of love, yet you are also genuine in being grateful that they love you the way they do. Problem solved! So, let’s make 2019 the year where we are more genuine with each other. Where we can speak freely with absolute, raw emotion, straight from the heart. Let’s make 2019 the year where we spread love without expectations.
That’s it from me for this post, my friends. Thank you for listening to my rant. Stay tuned for the next post, and until then have a wonderful night, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂