Today we will be diving into all of the wonderful things that come with a healthy Cg/l relationship. But before we do, I want to emphasize that a Little does not need a dominant to be a Little. While I am happily married to my Daddy, I am also a strong, independent woman at heart, and I would be doing a disservice to everyone if I didn’t advocate for solo littles as well. Alright, now that we got that out of the way let’s examine being in a Cg/l relationship. A few months ago I wrote an article about “10 Qualities a Dominant Must Have” as well as it’s counter-part, “10 Red Flags You Should Avoid When Searching For a Dominant”. I was inspired to write these after experiencing difficulty getting into the lifestyle at the start of my DDLG journey.
After settling into the lifestyle (and a few years later), I began this blog as a way to pay my knowledge forward. One of my favorite blog series that I’ve written on here, is the 5-part series, “How to Build a D/s Relationship That Lasts”. It is the culmination of years of being a submissive, knowledge read, tips and tricks that I’ve utilized in my own relationship, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. I hope you find these articles meaningful and valuable to help aid you in your journey too.
Today we are examining what the best aspect of being in a Cg/l relationship is. In my opinion, it’s the ability to connect with a dominant and get the “full experience” of being a Little. I’ll elaborate.
Back in November my Daddy went on a business trip. Having lived and been together for 7 years now, we are so used to sleeping together and snuggling up as best friends. Every once in a while his work will require him to attend a conference out of town and it’s necessary that he goes. When I first thought about him going on a business trip, I shrugged at the obstacle. I thought it would be a piece of cake to be without him for 1 week. Of course I would miss him, but one week isn’t that long…. right? Wrong! During those 7 days I practically yowled like the miserable kitten that I was, waiting for his return and whimpering on my cell phone all the way. I hated him being gone! But, I had to endure it and in doing so, I began to reflect on all of the little things that I had taken for granted with having my Daddy living with me.
I. You can pop into Little Space whenever you want.
Rarely do I need to “signal” that I want to go into Little Space. Sometimes I begin babbling to him and curl up into a ball. As if we are dancing, he instantly shifts with me assuming his daddy mindset and takes over to care for my needs. It’s a gift to have your dominant live with you full-time. Even if you aren’t living together, to have a dominant is a joy that should be cherished. It’s not easy being a dom, but the people who desire to care for their submissive and to step out of their wants and desires to do so, are special, unique people who deserve all the love in the world.
II. You’re with someone who understands the Little mindset and “gets it”.
It’s a BIG vanilla world out there and it can be a royal pain in the behind to try and explain to a non-kinky person about being a Little. It’s like speaking two foreign languages to each other. You end up resorting to pictures and hand gestures to try and get your message across. When you have a dominant and are in a Cg/l relationship, you don’t need to explain your Little side. They simply understand, because you’re in the same proverbial boat. They are a daddy or mommy. You are their Little. It’s as simple as that. 🙂
III. You always have someone to play with.
I love playing and snuggling up to my Daddy. In fact, one of my favorite things to do with him is to sprawl out on the sofa. He lays down and then I lay down on top of him. My head rests on his belly as he drapes a protective arm around me. No sooner am I snuggled over him like a warm blanket do I feel his breathing slow down. His chest rises and falls in a rhythmic fashion. And he begins to nod off into a peaceful nap. Having a dominant means always having a partner to play with. You can share your stories, picture books, coloring pictures, etc. with them and be able to interact within the Little head space whenever you feel like it. It’s a blessing and one that I don’t take for granted.
IV. You always feel protected.
One thing that I love about being in a Cg/l relationship, is having my Daddy be protective and watch over me. He gives me so much free reign, and yet, I always adhere to his rules and know to ask permission if I want to do something way out of the ordinary. It is from a place of deep respect and love that I ask for his permission to do things. In doing so, he feels an even deeper sense of love and protection over me. It’s nice to have someone always watching your back (and tush hehe!). 🙂
I could gush for hours about how amazing it is to be in a Cg/l relationship, but I’ll sum things up with this: the best part about being in a Cg/l relationship is the give and take that we have with each other. I care for his needs, and he cares for mine. We are slowly growing old together, and yet, I am his Little. I feel young and vibrant. I feel playful and sassy. I feel creative and free. I feel humbled and blessed. It is here, in this blog, that I share these printables, stories, articles, and resources with you as a piece of that love. My wish is that when/if you decide to connect with a dom/sub that you feel that deep sense of love too. Have a beautiful Wednesday everyone and stay tuned for tomorrow’s post! ❤