I sat on the couch a few nights ago with my writing journal in hand. I usually sketch out a rough outline of blog series that I want to do. “But what if this comes across as controversial?” I asked my Daddy, “I don’t want to upset anyone!”. He looked at me patiently. “Why do you want to write this series?” he asked me calmly. Deep down I knew the answer. I’ll be 35 years old this year, and yet, I’m a Little. I’ve heard from other Littles and dominants alike that there is a reoccurring issue within the Cg/l Community of age discrimination. While I’m happily married to my Daddy, there are many who are still seeking out their D/s mate. There are daddies and mommies (over 30 years old) who are healthy, grounded, and ready to care for their little one. Likewise, there are littles who yearn for a dominant while being “seasoned” (as I lovingly call us who are over 30 yrs. old). Which brings me to this blog series.
There is a need to bring light to this part of our community who are of a more mature age. So now, let’s dive in together to the post.
I. There is no “one size fits all”:
As a woman, we constantly battle society’s standards that skinnier is more beautiful, and those who are deemed “pretty enough” will end up the happiest in life. So, too, do Littles feel an immense pressure to conform to the standard that thinner = smaller and more desirable to a dominant. But nothing could be farther from the truth! The truth is that I’m fat. Yup! I’m fat, and not in a “p-h-a-t” kind of way. No, I have curves and a big rump. I have visible cellulite when I wear my onesies, and I have scars and stretch marks that chronicle my 35 year journey in life.
And yet…. I’m really happy! I have a Daddy who loves me. I have a simple, no frills life that is quiet and sure. I have all of YOU who come to read my blog, (and I read yours!), and I am part of a lifestyle that celebrates differences. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and regardless if you’re a size 2 or a size 32, there are dominants who will find you attractive, beautiful, and ready to be their submissive. I promise! There truly isn’t a “standard look” that a Little must have. It doesn’t matter if you’re young, old, tall, thin, short, fat, or have thunder thighs! (Hehe, that’s me). We’re all worthy of being in the Cg/l Community.
II. Age (regressing) Gracefully:
I remember the first time I saw it. I leaned in real close to the mirror and squinted. “Is that a…. wrinkle?” I muttered in disbelief. I couldn’t believe it! I had done everything “right” according to the beauty industry. I had always (okay, usually) worn sunscreen. I never drank soda and always drank tons of water. I slathered in lotion until I looked like a cupcake, and I used those exfoliate scrub thingies until I shed skin that would rival a snake’s! And yet, there it was! I had a wrinkle right across my forehead! No, let me be honest here. Years and years of raising my eyebrows and furrowing my brow, had led to three large creases etched in my pale skin right, smack-dab in the center of my brow! UGH! I was so annoyed!
But then I remembered my age. I’m in my 30’s now. And that means that I need the help of a little foundation and concealer to achieve my “youthful glow”. You know what? That’s okay. 🙂 If I’m being honest, I don’t want to be 21 again. I was kind of immature at 21 years old. I’m okay with lotioning up my skin, slapping on some makeup, and taking time to “work” to achieve my Little look…. because it means that I keep the wisdom that I’ve learned from years of life experience.
It’s fine, no, it’s HEALTHY to age with grace and style by using products and clothing that flatters and fits your body well. You have to do what is comfortable for YOU. My thunder thighs are not going to wear thigh-high socks in this lifetime. But honey, let me tell you, I can rock a romper or a dress. Don’t be afraid to use fashion and makeup to your advantage to feel sexy regardless of how old you are.
III. Lady on the Streets, but a Little in Bed:
One thing that I love about being in my 30’s, is that I have enough life experience to be “good” at having sex. But I wasn’t always that way, (and if you’re “seasoned” like me then you know what I’m talking about!). We were all a bit clumsy during our “first time”. We struggled to learn how to give a good blowjob. Men, I’m sure you had to learn how to build some stamina “between the sheets”, and learn which positions felt better than others. Now that I’m in my 30’s I rejoice that I can be a sexy, confident woman while out and about… and then come home to the privacy of my bedroom and be a Little for my Daddy (especially in bed).
When you’re “seasoned” you have confidence in knowing who you are. You are grounded as a Little or a Dom, and in being so, you can balance your adult life and your little space. You can handle business, and fulfill your dominant’s every desire. It’s pretty awesome.
IV. Keeping a Youthful Look Throughout the Decades:
I wrote a post a while ago titled, “Can You Be a Little Forever?”. I’m going to expand upon what I wrote in that previous post in this section. I have pondered many times, wondering if I will remain a Little forever and I always come back to the same answer: absolutely yes I will. I don’t care if I’m 35 or 75, I’ll still be rocking my kawaii printed dresses and bubblegum-colored shoes marching to my own Little-beat! Take 96 year old fashion icon Iris Apfel. The woman began making her own fashion pieces simply because she loved mixing and matching colors and patterns. She never conformed to the “standard” of the fashion industry, and now she is a global icon! Or, Kumamiki, who is a younger Japanese woman who has paved the way for Harajuku fashion and has been featured in tons of magazines and fashion shows.
These designers could care less about age when it comes to their fashion, and so should we! Your biological age should never dictate if you can be a Little, Middle, or an Adult Baby. It should never stop you from wearing clothing that expresses who you are as a Little. You are who you are, and you are who you will be, for the rest of your life! Embrace it, and rock your fashion each and every year. Keep turning heads to make others envy at how sexy and confident you feel in your clothes!
V. Being Little Comes From Within:
As you strut your stuff and sashay away, never forget that being a Little is who you are and never what you wear. Fashion will change. Trends will come and go. Your tastes and preferences for things will naturally shift as you age. But being a Little (or dominant) and yearning to be a part of this lifestyle comes from your being. It stems from the experiences that has shaped and molded you as a person. And it is because you are a Little in your soul, that will enable you to be one for the rest of your life. So let’s celebrate, my friends, that our community…. our Cg/l lifestyle… is a beautiful mixture of people from every age bracket.
That one day we will all be biologically “old”. That by society’s standards we will be in our Golden Years, and yet, deep down we will still be rock’in the clothing that makes us feel Little, and be deeply in love with our D/s mate that makes us feel complete. That is my wish for all of us.
That’s it from me for tonight. Stay tuned for more posts tomorrow! Comment and let me know if you’re a “seasoned” Little or Dom, and let me know how age has impacted your Cg/l journey. Have a wonderful night and I’ll see you all back here tomorrow!