Well Seasoned (The 30+ Yr. Bracket): The Advantages of a Seasoned Dominant [Part 3 of 8]

Hi Friends!

I’m back with another post on “seasoned” or older members of the Cg/l community and tonight I want to discuss dominants and those who are veteran members to our lifestyle. I remember one night talking to a friend of mine who is a few years older then myself. He is a dominant and was telling me how difficult it is to find a little once he discloses his age to them. “Seriously?” I asked in disbelief, “But why would anyone judge a daddy for their age?”. It turns out that older dominants have similar struggles that older littles have, in that they are viewed as “too old” or “creepy”. Now, I’ve already discussed my stance on underage dominants, so tonight let’s look at the other end of the spectrum as we dive into mature dominants and all of the advantages that being with one provides:

I. Older dominants have maturity, life experience, and wisdom to share: 

One major selling point that older dominants have over, say, a younger dominant is that they tend to be more mature. An older dominant isn’t likely going to be “hitting up the clubs” any time soon. They want a little one to snuggle up and care for at home. They are at a mental place where they have sowed their “wild oats” and are ready to settle down to commit to their submissive. And that, my friends, is the beauty of a partner over 30. They are ready to commit. They have experienced things in life, (and have colorful stories to share), and as such, are able to use that prior life experience to know what they’re looking for in a Cg/l relationship.

Often times it is older dominants who are able to guide a little with an even hand and a gentle temper far more effectively because they are wise. They can make sound decisions that are in the best interest of their Little, and truly help guide them to achieve their goals. Let’s not forget the 3 core goals that a dominant must always strive for:

  1. To guide their Little in reaching all of their personal goals.
  2. To help the Little yearn to serve them to fulfill all of the dominants desires.
  3. To gain the trust of their Little that makes them want to stay and submit for years to come.

With past life experience and relationships under their belt, the older dominant knows how to connect with partners better. They understand what makes a Little “tick” and how to communicate in a way that is healthy and effective. Age is simply a marker of how much life experience a person has.

II. Patience is a virtue that the seasoned dominant has: 

Let’s be honest for a moment. Taking care of a Little is no easy feat. We whine, pout, squeal, get excited and bouncy, and experience every emotion on the full spectrum of feelings. Our dominant has to deal with it all. They need to know how to care of us in both our “Little Me” and “Big Me” phases. They need to understand when we want to regress, and when we’re struggling to do so. And, they need to be constantly pushing us to reach our full potential. That’s a lot of work!! As such, it goes without saying that a dominant must be patient. Really patient! Now who do you think will (likely) be more patient with their submissive? An experienced, older dominant who has been with other Littles in the past and knows what obstacles are coming, or a dominant who is younger and newer to the community with less experience? Seasoned dominants definitely have the upper hand when it comes to patience.

III. Seasoned dominants are usually more stable and have greater financial flexibility: 

I don’t want to come off sounding like a “gold digger” because Lord knows that I’m far from it! However, us Littles do love to shop. We love cute clothing, shoes, purses… you name it! Those things aren’t free, and therefore we love being pampered by our daddy or mommy when possible. Older dominants usually have a stable career with a steady paycheck. That’s not to say that a younger dominant can’t provide for their Little, because of course they can. 🙂 But given that this post is about the advantages of older dominants, it should be noted that older dominants have had time to save up their money to pamper their little one with greater ease.

I’ve noticed, when speaking to older dominants, that they are usually less attracted to littles who bring a bunch of drama into their lives. You hit a certain age and all of a sudden drama sounds…. tiring! Boring. Unnecessary. They don’t want to be with a Little who is unsure of their wants and desires, regardless of how cute they might be. They want a Little who is grounded and can communicate their feelings without making too much of a fuss. The older dominant is patient and longs for a Little who is understanding too.

IV. The seasoned dominant is confident in who they are: 

Nothing is sexier on a person than confidence. You can have any body shape in the world, but if you’re lacking confidence, people will notice! An older dominant has had time to hone their skills in being confident. They know what they’re looking for, and they are able to “weed” out the type of littles that they want to connect with. They walk with an air of confidence that only comes with time and a large dose of life experience. They don’t need to be the loudest in the room, or have a large ego, because they have learned the dance of “pushing-pulling” a partner that they want to pursue. They know how to be mysterious but open at the same time. They radiate dominance like a quiet force of nature and that….. is incredibly sexy!

I know that it may be off-putting to meet a dominant who is 8 or 10 years older then you are, but if there is any message that I hope you take away from this post, it’s this: age really is just a number. Never discriminate a person simply by their age. If you meet someone that intrigues you, don’t let age stop you in your tracks. Go for the dom/little that you feel fits YOU best. Be confident in your decisions and enjoy the process of building a Cg/l relationship. If there is a Little who is older and you’re a younger dominant, woo them! Older littles have tons of advantages too! (Stay tuned for those in the next post of this series lol! 😉 ).

Alright that’s it from me, my friends. I hope you all enjoyed this post and gained something to take away from it all. Stay tuned for the next topic, I’ll see you back here in the morning, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂

Much love,

~Penny xx




  1. Hi friend

    First of all as a “Seasoned” Baby girl omg am loving that saying
    “Seasoned” . Ha it’s perfect x

    More a “Seasoned” sub just finding my feet, evolving on the Baby girl path. The fact I am older, in my own mind stopped me going for it sooner. So yes total agree on your post on little discrimination.
    I would have to say that Daddy Doms must feel discrimination too. I think it’s less and more except-able. In society never mind our community. Myself I always looked for older, both as a sub and baby girl. Very much drawn to BDSM experience and skill. I know that is going to make our journey just wow. In what I can give and they can get out of me.
    The more Seasoned Daddy Dom is extremely attractive to me. I always liked older guys. Hot hot Confidence in themselves that only comes from life experiences. They aren’t looking to stroke their ego first. I too, find that confidence a HUGE turn on. Then I am looking beyond surface, body or looks.
    Funny I have been called for discrimination of younger Daddy Dom’s. Must say it is my personal preference to want older. Each to there own. Though some younger, are up there with the “Seasoned” Daddy Dom’s.

    Thanks again Penny
    Love your posts
    Passing on of your experiences and knowledge.
    Love and hugs

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    1. BitterSweet, you make me smile from ear to ear! 😀

      What an awesome comment! I can relate to so much of what you’re saying. When I first got into the lifestyle, I felt awkward being in my late 20’s and yet, somehow I felt “old” compared to other Littles. There is an element of illusion that the Cg/l community projects that a Little is young, youthful, and fresh-faced. But if we’re gettin’ real up in here, it’s an impossible standard for a Little to maintain. Whether you’re 18 or 58, everyone is aging. Every Little who is out there showing off on Instagram will one day have their breasts sag, and get wrinkles across their brow. Does that mean that they aren’t a Little anymore? Of course not. Being a Little comes from within, not what’s on the outside. 🙂

      Like you, I have always been drawn to older men. It’s natural for us, who feel Little inside, to gravitate towards partners who make us feel protected, loved, and safe. They exude a sense of confidence that only time can give.
      I’m so excited for you to be journeying into finding your identity as a Babygirl in the community! That’s wonderful! Explore fashion that makes you feel cute and adorable. Create a space in your environment that makes you feel warm, safe, and happy. Hug those plushies and string up some fairy lights to add some ambiance to your Little Space. Also be sure to poke around and read Day 9 of Little Introspection https://littlepennyberry.com/2019/05/21/day-9-of-little-introspection-are-you-interested-in-other-subpaths-of-submission/. I detailed other forms of submission, and as someone drawn to the overall BDSM lifestyle, you might find it a worthwhile read. 🙂 There are many Littles who also practice multiple forms of submission (or as I like to call it “a hybrid Little”). If you ever have any questions or comments, feel free to DM me on Instagram or email me at: pennyberryddlg@gmail.com. I’m here for you, my friend! ❤

      Much love and hugs,
      ~Penny xx


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