Today I’m kicking off a 10-part series on being a parent, and being a part of the BDSM community. If you missed my “seasoned dominants and littles” series, I encourage you to go back and give it a read. In the series we discussed how older dominants and littles navigate the Cg/l community and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy it! Now let’s turn our attention to this new series: parenthood and BDSM.
Lately I’ve been asked the same question time and again: How are you a mother AND a Little? Doesn’t that conflict with each other? Aren’t they mutually exclusive?
The simple answer is: No. Now, let’s dive in. ❤
Recently I read an amazing article from a writer, and friend that I respect ,about ice cream. They compared their vanilla life, and their kink life to that of soft serve ice cream. One part is vanilla, while the other is luscious chocolate. Together, they swirl to form this decadent dessert. The analogy completely fits. For me, I like to compare myself to a stereo. There are times where I “turn up the volume” and can express myself deeply into little space. I can babble away in the head space, or slip into pet play with my kitten ears on!
But, if I’m being completely transparent here with you…. most of the time, the “volume” is turned down. I’m a mom, and a proud one at that. I have a beautiful daughter who is the center of my world. So, I don’t walk around wearing onesies or having a pacifier in my mouth. I don’t drink from a baby bottle 9 times out of 10. Why? Because I’m busy being a parent!
Now here’s the important part. Are you ready?
The “volume” is never completely turned off. My daughter describes me as “a super cool mom” because I’m that Mom who loves shopping in Claire’s right along side of her. She absolutely loves it that I love all things kawaii and that I enjoy reading manga, just like she does. She is super girly, and so am I. I use inspiration from “little me” and my endless well of creativity, to do things with my daughter that we both love. I get to enjoy being around pretty little things, and she gets bonding time with her Mama. It’s a win-win on both parts.
We rock out to Disney songs in the car. I purchase tiny ice cream cone snacks at the store. (Little does she know that they make me feel small, and she thinks I am the best thing since sliced bread). (lol!). We snuggle up together, her silky blonde-brown head resting on my chest, watching girly rom-com’s as she babbles about her love of k-pop. “Me too, kiddo” I mutter, “me too”. This is the story of my life. The dance that I do each and every day. Being a little is a lifestyle, and a mindset. It has nothing to do with what you wear, eat, or how you talk. It’s about how you feel inside. It’s a state of mind. It’s the ability to tap into your inner child and let it shine to the world.
So, as I kick off this series about parenthood and BDSM, I hope you find things within these posts that inspires and moves you. I hope you feel empowered that you can be a great parent and a part of the lifestyle. I hope you learn that being in the community has its appropriate place in all of our lives. You needn’t worry about separating your chocolate and vanilla ice cream.
Life is short. Enjoy them both!
Sending you all so much love today, and everyday, and I will see you back here on the next post.