Today we are discussing Cg/l authors, and book recommendations. If you haven’t noticed by now, I’m a bit of a book nerd. Take me on a date to a bookshop and I’ll probably be swooning from head to toe as I get lost in the aisles. Come to my local town every Saturday, and you’ll find me curled up in a plushy chair in the back of my library, lost in a grand adventure. Currently I’m reading, “Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine” By: Gail Honeyman. It’s a wonderful novel about a woman who is socially awkward, living in London, and is desperately trying to navigate her life. Only when she meets an equally socially awkward man, does she begin to think beyond her limitations to help another individual. I love how the book is written mostly from the perspective of her thoughts that enter her mind, since the character is especially quiet. I can relate well.
Moving on to today’s topic, I wanted to discuss Cg/l book recommendations and why I chose to write my own book on being a Little and the psychology behind age regression. When I got into the Cg/l lifestyle I found myself stumbling over various differences that set me apart from other littles who were “out and proud”:
- I’m a Little…. but I’m 34 years old. I’m not 18 anymore.
- I’m a Little…. but I’m also a parent. So I can’t run around in onesies and thigh highs all the time.
- I’m a Little… but I’m not an adult baby. I have no desire to wear diapers.
- I’m a Little…. but I don’t want to put out porn on the internet.
- I’m a Little…. but my little space isn’t only about sex.
- I’m a Little…. and kinky… and open-minded…. but I don’t want just any dick.
- I’m a Little…. but I’m curvy and insecure about my weight.
- I’m a Little…. but there is this whole mental component to age regression that is rarely spoken about!
- I’m a Little…. but I don’t smoke or drink alcohol at all.
I wanted to have a book in my hands that felt like how I feel when I’m in little space. I wanted something kinky but wholesome. (I’m sure that sounds contradictory, and if so, I apologize lol). I wanted a book from an author who was a good girl, but also understood the mindset of a Little. I wanted a book that was written by a seasoned little who could relate to me balancing my adult life, and my little side.
But there was only ONE book on Amazon to be found. One. Uno. That’s it!
So…. I began to write. And write. And write!! I poured everything that I had learned along the way into a book that ended up to be almost 265 pages long.
I. The Psychology of Little Me and Big Me:
I began by tackling common myths and misconceptions about the Cg/l lifestyle and DDLG. There are plenty of people out there who think that being a little is disgusting. They are quite vocal about calling dominants pedophiles and other vile names. So, in my book, I addressed that head on. I listed out the issues that the vanilla world has with people like me, who are kinky and uniquely different. Then, I dove into the psychology behind age regression. Ever since I took humanities and human development courses in college, I have been fascinated with human behavior. I love to people watch. If you ever get a chance to do so, I highly recommend it.
We are amazing, highly intelligent beings that behave in all kinds of crazy, and unexpected ways. As I studied psychology in college, I began to learn about the influence of nature versus nurture. I studied famous psychoanalysts who paved the way with theories about why the brain reacts to certain situations the way it does. In the process of studying, reading, and then observing people throughout my life, I began to form my own theory about age regression. Every Little has their own reasons for regressing in age. It is a unique case by case basis. But, I wanted to write about various reasons that an individual might choose to do so.
II. 100 Creative Dates For You and Your Dominant:
Next, I wanted to let my creative side shine. I’m an adventurous, curious soul. I love trying (and cooking!) new foods, reading new books, hearing new languages, and rocking out to new music. I love photography, poetry, and the theater. I love exploring new places, and taking in new sights. Minus going on a cruise, (I’m a bit of a germaphobe), I’m down to travel across the globe. As such, I wanted to create a list of Cg/l-inspired dates for littles and their dominants to enjoy. So I kept writing…. and writing…. and writing! 100 dates later, I smiled in satisfaction and shoved that into the book. 🙂
III. 47 Recipes Straight From My Kitchen:
Now, I love to cook. I truly believe food is love. There have been many people throughout my life who has told me to lose weight, not cook for an army, and even that, “nothing tastes as good as thin feels”. While I am ever-evolving, and love to eat healthy, I am just me. I’m an hourglass with a bit of fluff on my butt, hips, and thighs. I am who I am, and if someone isn’t attracted to me, that’s on them… not me. It has taken me a while to learn that.
That said, I love to cook for people! When I’m in the kitchen, I love having space, and peace and quiet, to get into my creative zone. I chop, taste, smell, and see a dish coming together. I feel my way through the cooking process. I’m not one of those cooks that measures everything exactly. I do a pinch here, and there of fresh herbs. I play gentle music in the background to set my mood. I take my time in plating everything up. And then I sit with eager anticipation, pausing before I take my first bite, to watch those who I’ve just fed. I relish in seeing their eyes light up, their mouths turn upward, and that gentle moan of deep satisfaction. It feels incredibly rewarding.
So, I shoved 47 tried and true recipes, that I have prepared here at home, full of love into the book. I took care in choosing each one, secretly hoping that they bring all of you much love, joy, and tons of delicious moments to savor in your home.
IV. 50 Budget-Friendly Products:
When it comes to shopping, I’m an Amazon type of girl. Oh, how I can browse for hours just looking over things and pondering if I need it in my life. It’s my favorite way to shop. But, I don’t have a money tree in the backyard. I still have bills and a budget to balance, just like all of you. 🙂 So when it comes to choosing items for my little space, I have to be smart and thrifty. In my book there is a list of 50 budget-friendly products to incorporate into your little space that won’t break the bank!
Finally, I did the one thing that many authors refuse to do: I marked my book down. Amazon allows you to choose the price point that you want to set. They show a percentage of royalty money that you’ll get in return for each book sold as you set the price. In my heart, I knew I wasn’t doing it for the money. I write these books, and this blog, from a place of love and desire to pass the knowledge forward. It’s that simple. So, I marked my books down to the lowest possible price that Amazon would allow. I get $1 USD per book sold 🙂 But you know what? I don’t mind, a bit! If I know that you all are out there enjoying what I’m producing, and that it is helping people in their own life, that’s good enough for me.
Life has a funny way of taking care of itself when you’re kind and paying things forward.
So that’s why I do what I do. That’s why I wrote, “Big Me, Little Me: A Survival Guide For Littles, By Littles”. That’s why I compiled a list of DDLG and BDSM resources for you to discover and check out. And why I come back here each and every day, to say hello, and bring you new content. I sincerely hope you’re enjoying it. Sending you so much love, my friends. Stay tuned for the next topic, and as always, keep on smiling! 🙂