How to Develop a Servant’s Heart as a Submissive [Christian Series, Part 4 of 15]

Hi Friends!

Tonight I want to discuss developing a servant’s heart. This is a term commonly heard in Christian circles, but outside of them the meaning can get misconstrued. In the world of BDSM we hear the term servant in reference to domestic service. For example: Julie acted as a servant for her dominant during the course of the party. But what does it mean to have a “servant’s heart”. Let’s dive in and take a closer look together.


I. A Term Rooted in the Bible: 

The term servant’s heart comes from a passage in the Bible. During the life of Jesus, He lived a humble, selfless life. We can better understand Jesus’ service in this scripture:

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name:  That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth; And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. [Philippians 2:5-11]

Jesus took upon him the form of a servant. He humbled himself, and lived selflessly. He treated everyone equally without judgement or bias. As a follower of Christ, we are called to try and live a life humble, gracious, quiet, and giving just as Jesus did. This is where the term “servant’s heart” stems from.

II. Choosing to Be a Selfless Submissive: 

Look, I’m going to be honest with you. Choosing to be selfless as a submissive is difficult. There are times when you will feel tired. You will want someone to grab you and hug you tight, especially if you’re having a hard day. And if your dominant is healthy and focused on you, they will. But, it’s important to try and keep your focus on serving others. It truly feels good to serve without seeking anything in return. I encourage you to consider working on yourself to cultivate a servant’s heart. Find ways to do small acts of kindness for your dominant. Create dates that help your local community. Attend church together. Pray for your dominant. Cook them a nice meal simply because you care and long to nourish them.

III. How to Begin Your Journey Into Cultivating a Servant’s Heart: 

If this is a choice that you long to make, begin with reading the Bible. Proverbs 31 is a classic passage that most women turn to and strive towards. Why? Because it’s about how women should care for their home, family, and themselves. It should be titled, “How To Be a Badass and Care For Your Family”. But I don’t think the Bible would tolerate the word, badass lol. My point is, turn to the scriptures. Learn about how deeply rooted submission is in the Bible. Next, think about ways to help out the world around you. Pick up litter as you’re walking out and about. Give to your favorite charity. Tithe at church. Help a friend in need. Show a random stranger kindness on social media. Spread love to all that you meet. The world needs people who live selflessly. People who genuinely care about the well-being of others. 🙂

I know this post was short, but I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, smash that like button and let me know! That’s it from me for tonight, my friends. I hope you all have a wonderful night, keep smiling, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten xx

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