Day 55 of Little Introspection: What Advice Would You Give to a New Little?

Happy Friday, my friends!!

Woohoo!! We made it through another week. Do a happy dance! Do you have any fun plans for this weekend? Today I am reflecting on my journey as a Little, and writing about what advice I would give to a Little just beginning their journey into the lifestyle. Now, let’s dive in together:


I. There is No Right or Wrong Way to Be a Little: 

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned over the 4 years that I’ve been “out” as a Little, has been to find my own way of being a Little. What one little does is different from any other little. And in truth, there is no right or wrong way to regress in age. What that picture looks like will be different for you, and that’s perfectly okay! Be your own unique self! I encourage you to experiment with things that interest you. Try on different types of clothing. Reconnect with toys from your childhood. Dance to your favorite tunes. Watch your favorite shows. How you regress is entirely up to you and that should be celebrated.

I would also encourage you to stand up for yourself when it comes to connecting with a dominant. For some, they prefer to not have a dominant. They want their little space to be solo, non-sexual, or regress for reasons outside of a D/s dynamic. And that’s great too! If you do choose to connect with a dominant, never let a person tell you that how you regress is “wrong”. Unless you’re displaying unhealthy, toxic behavior, be the Little that you feel inside. Be true to yourself. ❤

II. Embrace the State of Mind of Being a Little: 

There will be many times that you can’t have a scheduled play session, but you still feel little inside. You might feel a need to regress while you’re still in your work clothes. This is completely normal. It is in these moments that I hope you remember that being little is a state of mind. Let go, and simply regress. Become the “little me” inside. You don’t need to wear anything special. You don’t need to do a little activity. You are who you are. Understand that “little me” can be an especially vulnerable state of being, which is why if you do choose to have a dominant, that you should be picky about who you give control to. Make sure they have your best interests at heart because D/s relationship break up’s can be especially painful for people.

As you ease into the lifestyle I encourage you to reach out and connect with others. We are usually quite the bubbly, happy bunch of people. Being a little is so much fun, and it’s great to hang out with others who can embrace their little side too. We are silly, giggly, and optimistic. There are many ways to make more little friends. Jump online and head to these popular DDLG forums to meet both dominants and littles. Head to a local munch or a regional convention where you can be completely immersed in the lifestyle.

**Side/Random Note: I am typing this as road construction is going on right outside my house. It feels like a mini-earthquake since they are jack hammering. So y’all bear with me lol **

III. Happiness is an Inside Job: 

As you come into your own as a Little, don’t be afraid to embrace who you are. Choose what pronouns and gender identity feels right for you. Express yourself how you see fit. “Little me” is another form of self expression. It’s embracing a piece of yourself. As such, little space (or the state of mind of regressing in age) should be a place of joy. Whether you have a dominant or not, happiness is cultivated from within. Nurture that part of yourself and know that you are enough. Your “little me” is enough. While it may feel like the journey to discovering this part of yourself is different, scary, uncomfortable, or awkward, know that everything is going to be fine. You will slowly adjust to your little space and be dancing and twirling before you know it. I believe in you! 🙂

I hope you all have a beautiful Friday, and I will see you all back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten xx

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