Good Morning Friends,
Today I’m keeping it real up in here this morning. Sometimes… life is hard. We go through things that are uncomfortable. We have moments in our relationships that don’t feel so good. Yes, we love to bask in those moments where we swoon, feel completely in love, and talk for hours. And those things are great and amazing. But today I want to talk about the other part of the relationship; the moments that don’t feel as good, because that’s a very real part of any relationship too.
I’m in a long distance D/s relationship. And you know what? It’s not easy!
There are times when I miss my Daddy so much that my heart aches. I squeeze my eyes shut to try and calm myself down. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t. I curl up, waiting for that little “ding” to sound when I get a text message from him. (C’mon, I know there are more people out there like me who has waited by their phone for their partner to message in too! 😉 ). It’s a true act of patience when you send that simple text of “Hey babe” and then have to wait for sometimes hours to get a simple “hey baby” back. Oh it can feel like torture, right?!
But we do it because we see the bigger picture. We love our partner dearly. No relationship is perfect. No relationship is all smiles, swooning, and happy moments. Even my Daddy says, “even the best laid plans have bumps”. So…. we navigate the bumps together.
Today, I want to share with you one coping mechanism that I use when I can’t speak to my Daddy: I lean on God.
It may sound cheesy, but bear with me for a moment. I’m a woman of faith. I have always believed in the power of prayer because I’ve seen God work in my life in many ways. I don’t sit up here reading pre-written prayers for this, that, and the other. No! There are times where I look up at the sky and say, “God, seriously, what in the heck is going ON right now?! Where are you because I need your help!!”. I keep it real with God, and I’d like to think we have a pretty tight relationship ;).
That said, I also pray often when I can’t speak to my Daddy. I talk to God about how much it hurts when we’re apart. I talk to Him about the aches in my heart. I pray for peace. I pray for patience. I remember scripture that commands me to be understanding. (And when that fails I begin to list off the “Fruit of the Spirit” lol). I literally sit here saying, “Alright Lord, now my patience is being tested today, because my Daddy got busy and we can’t talk and I feel so bummed…. but I know I’m supposed to have love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control”. That’s in the book of Galatians, just in case you were curious. I learned that scripture at Bible camp as a kid, but I digress.
I lean on faith to remind me to be patient and navigate the valleys with my Daddy. I tell him I miss him. I act clingy if need be. I let him know my honest feelings because I believe it’s silly to hide how you really feel. Be transparent. Be open. Let your dominant know that you miss the heck out of them, and that the distance is hard, because you know what? It IS hard! It’s hard being so far from the ones you love. It’s hard going hours and sometimes days, without talking on the phone. It’s hard when life keeps you both busy, when all you want to do is curl up together. So tell them. Keep it real. ❤
For me, whenever I’m having a hard day (like today) and I miss my Daddy, I fill my ears with positivity to battle the sorrow. I listen to sermons. I read scripture that is uplifting. I write on here to all of you. I tweet my feelings away lol. I do what I need to do to cope. Here are a few more tips to help you, if you’re in a long distance relationship:
- Schedule Time Together: When in doubt, plan. The most successful times that my Daddy and I have had, is when we literally schedule our phone conversations. I know well in advance to make myself available at the scheduled time, and it gives me something to look forward to. 🙂
- Embrace the Up’s and Down’s: It feels good when you navigate a “bump” together in life. Talk to each other. As long as your partner is communicating (even if via text) then you’re going to be okay. Remind yourself that no relationship is smooth sailing all the time. That’s unrealistic. Know that there will be up’s and down’s, but as long as you navigate them together, you’ll be just fine. ❤
- Give Each Other Extra Reassurance When You Can’t Talk: My Daddy is pretty awesome at reminding me how much he cares. We always say good morning and good night (complete with extra emoji’s) which gives us a feeling of reassurance across the many miles. When you feel the urge, tell them that you love them. Send those cute gifs. Don’t hold back. Time is too precious to hold back. 🙂
- Keep Yourself Busy: The last piece of advice that I want to give is to keep yourself busy. It can be soooo difficult to not wait by the phone, but honestly, it only makes it more difficult when you do. Press on with your day. Of course you will be thinking about your partner, but sometimes you just need to dig deep and keep carrying on. They will reach out to you when they can. Until then, keep your mind focused on something else so that way you’re not aching and pining for them. ❤
I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday. If you enjoyed this post, hit that like button and let me know! Stay kind to one another and I will see you all back here for the next topic!