Day 4 of Submissive Training: Discussing Your Most Self-Conscious Body Part with Your Partner

Hi Friends!

We’re back with another day of submissive training! And today’s focus is going to be discussing your most self-conscious body part. We all have that one spot on our body which makes us go, “ugh!”. But honey, let me tell you, if there’s anything I’ve learned it’s this:


Tehehehe! But in all seriousness, usually we are our own worst critic. Part of your submissive training is to develop a true, loving relationship with yourself. Know that you are enough! You are beautiful. If you’ve got curves, flaunt’em! If you’ve got a butt, shake it! Your partner will appreciate and love you for YOU. All you need to be is yourself. So, today we are going to dive into those self-conscious parts that everyone is afraid to share, and talk about how to open up to your partner. Ready? Then let’s dive in.

I. The Chub Flub: 


I have met guys with six-packs who has sat there stressing about their diet, cutting calories, etc. just so that they can be a tiny bit more ripped and fit. I’ve also met plenty of people who stress about the fact that they can grip their chubby tummies. At the end of the day, cellulite doesn’t always determine your overall health. Only you and your doctor know what your true health is. If your stomach is your most-conscious body part, give this gentle exercise a try. Sit facing your partner. Quietly open up to them about why your stomach is your most self-conscious body part. Then, when you feel ready, lift up your shirt just enough to expose your navel area. Give your partner consent to touch your stomach. Let them reassure you that your stomach is beautiful because it is a part of YOU! That is what matters in the end. 🙂 Whether you have rock hard abs or a plushy tummy to snuggle up to, you are who you are, and that makes you worthy of all the love in the world.

II. Dem Thick Thighs: 


I remember several years ago when the “thigh gap” craze was going around. I think I quite literally said aloud, “who the f*** has an actual thigh gap??”. Clearly, I’ve never had one of those! But the concept was silly and I’m glad it’s a thing of the past. Whether you have thick thighs that jiggle or rock hard thighs from running, your legs are your legs. If this is your most self-conscious body part then this next exercise is for you. Sit side by side somewhere comfortable with your partner. Next, have them gently (and lovingly) lather your thighs and calves with lotion as you begin to open up about why your thighs make you feel self-conscious. It’s important for your partner to reassure you that your whole body is accepted, thighs and all! 🙂

III. Da Booty: 


Let’s talk about dat ass… da booty. The behind. The rump. The tushie. Hehe! Yes, when it comes to the derriere I am no stranger to being self-conscious. So for all you dear friends out there who blush over showing your partner your “apple bottom”, I totally get it. It can be VERY nerve racking, but I’ll let you in on a little secret. Guys love a smack-able butt. No, seriously! They love a little “cushion for the push’in”. Your curves are a part of who you are and regardless of what size junk you have in the trunk, or what type of panties are covering your “lady lumps”, your dominant is going to cherish every inch. If this area is your most self-conscious body part, then this next exercise is for you.

I always say that no person is truly unable to dance. In the privacy of your own home, (because we all know that the clubs can get crazy), turn on your favorite dance music. Then, have your partner get up and dance with you. Shake what you’ve got! Dance is a powerful way to connect as a couple. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know specific “dance moves”, just move how the music moves you. Let your body move naturally. Then, when you’re ready, try dancing closer to your partner. Move your bodies together, flowing and connecting through music and movement. Again, it doesn’t matter if you feel silly grinding on each other. Just move, connect, and feel. Shake your butt up against your partner. They will enjoy connecting with you in this new and fun way. Let yourself giggle and feel through the emotions that bubble up. Your partner will reassure you as they dance up on you, too. It will be a powerful and transformative moment for you both. ❤

IV. Flabby Arms: 


Ever since Michelle Obama became the First Lady, and was rock’in those gorgeous, toned biceps, women everywhere freaked out about their “bat wings”. I get it. You don’t lift, and neither do I. So you have a little jiggle on your upper arms. No man ever said, “oh no, honey, please don’t give me a hand-job. I don’t want to see your arms jiggle” nor has any true dominant ever rejected their submissive for a bit of “arm fluff”. However, I understand the fear of wearing tank tops and spaghetti straps when you’re feeling self-conscious about your arms. So if your biceps are the area that you’re most self-conscious about then this exercise is perfect for you and your partner.

For this exercise, go to your favorite store or thrift shop with your partner. (If you’re long distance, modify this exercise by doing a video call while you’re out shopping, or snap pictures via text so your dominant can help choose/see what you’re picking out!). Search for a top or sleeveless dress. Allow your dominant to pick out an outfit for you to wear and try on. Then, do a fashion show for them! You don’t have to buy the clothing. Just have fun with it and watch as your dominant reassures you how beautiful you look, especially with your arms on display. Remember, love starts from within. You are beautiful just the way you are. You don’t need to have Michelle Obama’s biceps. Just have your own! 🙂 You’re beautiful just the way you are, arms and all.

In sum, if you took nothing away from this post, then please remember these three things:

  • You are beautiful and perfect just the way you are.
  • Above all, love each other deeply. (1 Peter 4:8)
  • If your partner is honest, healthy, loving, and grounded then they will love you for who you are… not what size, shape, or color you are.


Have a beautiful night everyone, and I will see you all back here for the next post! ❤

Much love,

~Kitten xx


    1. Hi Naomi!!
      I absolutely LOVE reading yours and Rex’s blog! Your love journey together is simply beautiful and I wish you both all the best! Here’s to many more wonderful adventures together 🙂 Thank you for the lovely comment! xxx Kitten 😀

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      1. Thank you so much for your encouragement! Tell Rex I need more new clothes! For some reason he’s in a generous mood…lol

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