Good Morning Friends!
This morning I’m sitting here in the outfit that my Daddy picked out for me. My fingertips tingle with so much to say. I feel small and happy, so this topic is more than appropriate. I began my day in the happiest way possible: I got to speak with my daddy on the phone. As a long distance couple we have to be creative, and work hard to nourish our connection. But we do it because we’re both passionate about what we’ve built together. Today I’d like to discuss how to introduce your little side to your partner. This is a big step for any Cg/l relationship, but one that is so important to take. Are you ready? Then let’s dive in.
I. Giving Your Dominant a “Cheat Sheet”:
I’ve said it probably a thousand times on here, but I’ll say it once more: no two littles are alike. Everyone’s desire and reason to regress in age is different. People have various needs, wants, and ways in which they regress into the little mindset. As such, daddies and mommies can have quite the difficult time figuring out how to guide their submissive into little space. So, let’s give our dominants a break and create a “cheat sheet” of sorts, to aid the process. I recommend that you write down a list of “triggers” that will instantly make you feel small. Here are a few examples of things that my Daddy can do that will instantly put me in the little mindset:
- If he asks me, “Kitten, how old are you?”. I grin from ear to ear and will reply, “I’m five!!” while holding up five fingers.
- If he orders food for me because “I don’t know how to read all of the words on the menu yet”. (Bonus points if he cuts up my food for me too 😉 ).
- If he reads me a bedtime story as my eyelids begin to droop.
- If he tucks me in for a short afternoon nap, while sitting beside me to stroke my hair.
Create a list for your dominant that resonates your own needs, wants, and desires of what will easily put you in little space. It will become a valuable tool for you both to use as you begin to connect with each other in little space.
II. Allowing Your Dominant to Lead:
Choosing to be in a D/s relationship, even as a Little, means allowing your dominant to guide and lead you. There is a Bible verse that I’ve always loved that I believe fits the concept of a dominant and submissive well.
Your dominant will play an important part of your little space. With their guidance, you will begin to change, mold, and shape yourself into the person that you want to be. You will become more confident in showing your little side with ease, because they will demonstrate their ability to guide you into the head space. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to allow your dominant to lead you into the mindset. There will be times when they crave seeing your little side. Indulge them. Shift your thinking into a place of service and love, as you surrender over your heart. Whether you view little space as a kink or not, it can be an emotionally vulnerable state of mind to be in. It’s imperative that your dominant nurture “little me” with tender, loving care. Put faith and trust in the bond that you have, that they will guide you with a protective, loving hand.
III. Expressing “Little Me” to Your Dominant For the Very First Time:
If you were to sit in front of me and hear me in little space, the first thing you would likely notice is that I’m very musical. The tone of my voice changes from soft and smooth, to bouncy and musical. As I enter the mindset I begin to babble. Often times when I’m expressing myself, I’ll make a series of “na na na” sounds that don’t make sense if you’re simply listening. But visually, my body language says it all. My eyes will light up with the thoughts in my brain. My hands will be moving, gesturing as to what I seek, and I get wiggly as I try to sit in place. (Much like that of a very young child 🙂 ). It can feel embarrassing or nerve-racking to share this side of yourself with your dominant for the very first time. I remember wondering if my little voice sounded silly. I wanted to “ease” my Daddy into the idea of hearing me speak as a little.
But the truth for me, and for all of you fellow littles too, is that we are who we are. Your dominant is going to see you as a Little, so you might as well toss them into the “deep end” and just be yourself. Slip on clothing that makes you feel happy and small, and then let your little side be free! Here are a couple of ideas to get you going, on how to express “little me” to your dominant for the very first time:
- Have your dom take you to your local playground to simply play and put you in the mindset.
- Head to your local library and check out picture books together.
- Crank on some music that puts you in little space and rock out together!
Expressing “little me” to your dominant can be a scary, unknown step to take, but one that is so important for any Cg/l relationship. Always remember: your dominant craves to care for you just as much as you crave to be nurtured by them. Lean on your love for one another and put faith in the connection that you share. You’ve got this. I believe in you! Alright, that’s it from me for this post, my friends. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Stay tuned for more fun topics as we continue on in this submissive training series, and I will see you all back here on the next post!