Day 7 of Submissive Training: Incorporating Domestic Service into Your Training

Good Evening Friends,

Today we’re going to talk about a subject that is near and dear to my heart: domestic service. I remember that up until I was 12 years old, I had assumed that every woman on the planet cooks. I had been so immersed with women who took pride in cooking and serving their families, that it never occurred to me that it was a personal choice rather than an expectation. As my parents divorced, and my father remarried, suddenly I met my stepmom who absolutely despised cooking! I was baffled. I watched as she scorned the cooking process and ultimately resulted to ordering takeout or dumping food in a microwave bowl from a can.

Domestic service is a skill that spans much wider than simply cooking, but as a foodie and someone who takes pride in being the ilaw ng tahanan (or “light of the home”), for me it all begins in the kitchen. I use food to nourish those that I love. If you were to come over to my home there would always be something bubbling on the stove. Tonight we’re going to discuss various ways to incorporate domestic service into your submissive training. Now, let’s dive in.

I. Learning to Cook: 

I remember the day vividly when my very feminist daughter huffed at me demanding why she needed to learn to cook. (She’s since learned to love it, but at the time… not so much lol). “It’s a life skill” I said gently, “and one in which will nourish your own partner and family one day”. Learning to serve your dominant food is an expression of love. You can cook their favorite dishes, taking time to prepare them beautifully. I encourage you to make a list of their favorite foods. Find out what tastes and smells they enjoy and lean towards them. If your dominant is up to it, get in the kitchen together! The process of cooking is a full sensory experience. You’re tasting, smelling, touching, and listening to the sounds of the dish coming together. You’re playing music to set a relaxing ambiance, (put on something your dominant enjoys), and perhaps lighting a few beautifully scented candles to enhance the mood.

Yes, cooking never needs to be viewed as a chore. Let your palate guide you. I get excited when exploring a new recipe. I read over it several times. I envision every step in my mind long before I set foot into the kitchen. Once the dish is fully prepared, I feel so honored to plate the food delicately, as if in a restaurant, and then serve it to my loved ones. So, too, can you do the same. Take pride in your work. After all, it is a true act of service.

II. It’s All in the Little Details: 

When it comes to domestic service, many times it comes down to the little things that will make your dominant smile. Yes, you’ll want to keep a tidy home. But you can go the extra mile by laying out their work clothes ahead of time. Perhaps you bring them a cold beverage as soon as they walk in the door. You might lay out a fresh towel as they take a shower at the end of a long, hard day. You can put a few drops of their favorite scent in a diffuser to make the bedroom relaxing and calm for them to rest in. Do what your dominant enjoys. That is the key. You are being of service to them! Not that your own preferences don’t matter, because they do. But if you serve your dominant around the house, putting their needs first, you’ll find them wanting to have a servant’s heart to take care of you too. 🙂


III. Minimalism = Harmony: 

Although I love purses, shoes, and comfortable, cute clothing, I’m also a minimalist. I’ve learned along the way that the less clutter there is a room the more harmony there is in the home. You can clean things easier. Everything has a place and there is no question about where items are. Things can stay organized and tidy. And the home is visually less stimulating which creates a relaxing environment. Now, if you have a home that is full of “stuff” don’t fret. There are few methods that I’ve used to declutter over the years that have been successful and will work for you and your dominant too.

  • “The 30 Day Challenge”: This was how I first got into minimalism 3 years ago. Begin at the start of the month. For every day on the calendar, you get rid of that many items. So on day 1 you get rid of 1 item. Day 2 you get rid of 2 items, and so on. By the end of the month you will have purged over 430 items!! I never knew that I had that much to get rid of, but between all the little knick knacks, I was able to complete this challenge and felt amazing afterward.
  • Capsule Wardrobe: Many minimalists prefer to have what’s called, “capsule wardrobes”, meaning that they pair down their clothing to just the essentials. Lots of minimalists also keep their clothing to neutral colors that are gentle on the eyes and can be mixed and matched in many ways.
  • Using Natural Resources: Another strategy that minimalists use is to incorporate clean, sparse spaces with natural resources. They might use wooden coffee tables, a stone meditation sculpture, or bring in foliage to make the space feel more airy and bright.
  • When in Doubt, Donate!: Lastly, there are always ways to give things away. People are in need of many supplies and if you’re already pairing down your items, consider donating items to shelters, hospitals, and volunteer organizations.

IV. Create Rules to Incorporate Domestic Service into Your Routine: 

The last point that I want to touch upon is having your dominant create rules to get you into the habit of doing domestic service. Create a schedule together that is achievable. Find out their likes and preferences, for ways in which you can meet their needs as their submissive. Have your dominant check up on you via text (while they are at work), or on the phone, to make sure you’re staying on track with your tasks while they are away. You needn’t worry about feeling like a slave. Crank on some music to make your cleaning routine fun! Focus on the joy you’re bringing to your living space. That will make the time pass by quickly.

I hope you all enjoyed this post. If you did, hit that like button and let me know! I hope you all have a wonderful evening and I will see you back here in the morning. 🙂

Much love,

~Kitten/Punkin Xx

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