Good Morning Friends!
I have an exciting announcement before I dive into today’s blog post. I am going on a DDLG-themed vacation for a whole week! Weee! I’ll be heading off to Southern California in just a couple of days for a solid week to explore all things Little, happy, and kawaii. So, stay tuned for day-by-day updates, tons of pictures, and blog posts from me while on holiday. I hope they give you inspiration to create your own DDLG-themed vacation too! Alright, now let’s turn our attention to today’s topic: how to cope being long distance.
For those new to my blog, hi and welcome! I’m so glad you’re here. My Daddy and I are a long distance couple who, like many of you out there, have to learn to cope with the distance of being far apart. I’m not going to sugar coat anything here. Being in a long distance relationship can be difficult. You miss your partner terribly at times. It can feel lonely, isolating, and sad. But there are many ways to bridge the gap, and even some advantages to being long distance to begin with. Are you ready to explore this topic with me? Then, let’s dive in.
I. Texting is Nice, But Phone Calls Are Better:
In this day and age, texting seems to be the preferred method of choice for communication, and to a degree I understand. It’s fast, convenient, and sometimes you don’t have enough time to slow down to have a whole conversation. Daddy and I use WhatsApp to communicate daily. As a person with anxiety, one feature that I love about WhatsApp is that unlike a normal text, WhatsApp has a gentle bell sound whenever a new message arrives. It isn’t jarring and doesn’t startle me. So I look forward to his messages as they arrive throughout the day. Although, that said, talking on the phone still reigns supreme when it comes to communication. And that, my friends, is the first advantage of starting off as a long distance couple. You learn to communicate really, really well.
As a long distance couple, you don’t have the advantage of going on a date whenever you feel like it. Your texts and phone calls are the blood of your relationship, therefore you make each and every one count. You text good morning when you wake up, and goodnight before you sleep. You toss in a bunch of emojis, because we all know that it’s hard to infer emotion through text alone, and you send gifs to further emphasize your point. 🙂 You go the distance because you know your partner is worth it. But never forget to add in phone conversations. Hearing your partners voice on the phone pulls everything together. You can listen to each other laugh, smile, sigh, and vent. You can gush with emotion in your tone, as they feel what you’re saying. It brings the relationship to life. While I understand that talking on the phone can be nerve-racking (everyone gets the first call jitters), it is so worth it to keep your bond alive and kicking.
II. Video Chatting is the Best:
There’s a funny thing that happens in the pattern of long distance communication. You begin messaging, and that’s nice until you text personally. Then you want to text personally all the time because it feels more intimate. As you grow closer you finally have your first phone call, and while texting feels nice, phone calls become better because it draws you closer to your partner. Like a staircase going upwards, your forms of communication will continue to enhance your relationship, and video chatting is the best of the best. When you finally video chat you can see each other! You can’t touch, but everything else is do-able and that is a huge step up. You can watch their facial expressions and laugh together at silly jokes. You can see what they’re wearing, and what their room looks like. It’s as though you’re sitting across the table from one another but aren’t able to touch.
Video chatting will begin to seal your bond. Every step that you’ve taken up until that point will come to a head to finally bring you both together with the power of technology. You can ask questions and really watch your partner answer them with full expression. Do they talk with their hands? Do they blush at your comments? You’ll be able to see it all. As you grow more comfortable on video chat, your mind will toy with the idea of getting together in person for real. Your longing to bring it all home will explode as you stand on top of the long distance communication staircase. You will have made a journey together that is remarkable and impressive. That is another advantage of being long distance: you journey together as you grow closer and closer with every passing form of communication.
III. Mindfully Scheduling Time Together:
Now as you’re long distance, there are things that are critical to remember that will ensure your continued growth. First, I cannot stress enough how important it is to make time to talk. From the block, I told my Daddy that I’m one of those people that needs to hear “good morning” and “goodnight” if nothing else. It sets a pattern for the day. We start the day together, and we end each day together. What happens in between? Well, that depends upon the day! Some days we are crazy busy, while other days we can talk for hours. But we always make time to talk. One tool that is helpful is Google Calendar. As a long distance couple, Google Calendar is a great, user-friendly tool to use to sync up with your partner. You both login with your gmail accounts and then you can plug in your schedule so that you both can see what you’re up to when you’re not together. Once your schedules are all plugged in, schedule times to talk on the phone! Organization always keeps things calm.
Remember that everyone has different communication needs. Ask your partner how often they would like to communicate daily. Do they need to hear from you several times a day? Are they comfortable with talking every other day? Would they like to keep communication to the weekends? Find out what your partner’s needs are, and be sure to express your own. Compromise and find a happy, middle ground where you both are communicating enough to satisfy your needs. 🙂
IV. Little Ways to Close the Distance:
The last point I’d like to touch on, is how to do extra little things to close the distance. There are ways to physically be apart from your partner, but to make it feel like the distance is less. Here are a few ideas that I came up with:
- Swap music with each other. That way you can rock out to your partner’s favorite tunes while you’re apart.
- Share memes. It’s always great to make your partner laugh, and there are a ton of hilarious memes out there.
- Cook the same meals. Find out what types of food your partner enjoys. Then cook them up for yourself and try them out. It’s just another little way to bring them into your home while you two are apart.
- Swap daily pictures. I have my Daddy to thank for this one. Take a picture of yourself (no matter how you look!) and send it to your partner. That way they can see the real you– unfiltered, untouched, and simply stunning. 🙂
- Recommend books. Share your favorite books with each other and check them out at your local library (or download them to your e-reader). This is another way to learn more about your partners interests.
- Watch movies together. Sit on the phone and watch a Netflix movie together. Pop some popcorn and it will be like you’re almost snuggled up in the same bed enjoying a flick together. ❤
- Text each other jokes. I love sharing corny jokes with my Daddy. As a playful person, I thrive on making him laugh. There are tons of great jokes on the internet that you can pull and share with your partner. Go ahead and give them a laugh.
- Hop on Watch2gether.com : This FREE platform allows you and your partner to hop into your own private video viewing chat room to sync up at the same time and swap videos. Some platforms that it allows for you to sync videos from include: YouTube, Vimeo, Soundcloud, and Daily Motion. It’s pretty awesome and I’ve used it many times to rock out to music with friends.
Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. I hope you all have a terrific Thursday, and I will see you back here for the next topic!