Day 27 of Submissive Training: Bucket Lists and Relationship Goals

Good Evening Friends!

What a productive day it has been! Woo! I love days where my brain is flowing with creativity, and by the time my head hits the pillow I’ve accomplished so much. Today is going to be one of those days. This evening I want to talk about relationship goals. You know what I mean…. those #relationshipgoals. I wonder who created that? From the moment I jumped on social media for the first time, I saw pictures of couples in matching outfits, or doing supposed “milestones” that were apparently necessary as a relationship goal. Well, tonight I’m going to rip the veil off this strange trend and give you a more realistic version of how to have “relationship goals” in your D/s relationship and use bucket lists to keep things poppin’ between you and your boo. šŸ˜‰ Now, let’s dive in. ā¤

I. Seasonal Bucket Lists:Ā 

I admit that when it comes to bucket lists, I’m a bit of an addict. Since my daughter could walk, I’ve been doing seasonal bucket lists with her. So when I became a submissive, that sort of trickled over into my D/s life too. I’m “the Queen of Lists”. There are certain seasonal activities that are simply perfect for D/s dates and having a bucket list is a great way to help inspire date night (or to prod your dominant a bit if need be šŸ˜‰ ). Given that we’re still in the tail end of summer, let’s start there. Summer time… ahh… summer. For many it’s the frantic race of shipping the kids off to camp or scrambling on the supposedly relaxing vacation with the whole family. But, there are many ways to weave in D/s dates during those bright summer months. Head out to your favorite museum. Have a picnic at your local park or the beach. Many parks and rec departments host free movie nights outside at the park, or free concerts to attend. You can also hop in kitchen together and whip up homemade ice cream, or make some good ol’ fashioned BBQ on the grill. This summer bucket list will surely inspire you before we shift into fall.

And then along comes Fall. My favorite season. I love Fall! It’s the time to bust out the cute sweaters and layered jackets. The air finally cools and everything turns a multitude of colors. It’s the time to grab your partner and head out to Starbucks to get pumpkin lattes or pumpkin spice muffins. Go for a hayride and soak in the farm, or head to a U-pick and bring home a bunch of apples! Carve a jack-o-lantern together or get lost in a corn maze. There’s always something fun to do in Fall and this fall bucket list is bursting with fun ideas for your D/s relationship.

Finally everything grows cold and the earth quiets during the winter months. The skies turn grey and animals burrow down underground. While it’s cold and dark outside, we illuminate the sky during the holidays. Oh, how beautiful it is. Truthfully, I begin busting out Christmas carols around October, but I’m also a bit of a Christmas-nut lol. But winter is the perfect time to take your partner out caroling with your local church. Visit a shelter and donate your time together as a D/s date. Go ice skating and hold hands as you wobble around on the ice together. Head up to the mountains and go sledding down the snowy slopes. This winter bucket list is perfect to keep on hand this holiday season.

Just when we can’t take the cold any longer, the ground begins to thaw. The first buds of Spring begin to bloom. We hear birds chirping welcoming us back into the first snaps of Spring. As the sun emerges again with its warmth, plan a tea party out in the garden. Host an Easter egg hunt with your partner and friends. Jump in rain puddles in your cutest wellies. Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day by kissing your partner clad in all green. šŸ˜‰ Have a bonfire cookout on the beach or celebrate Pancake day with a pancake buffet at home. This Spring bucket list will give you and your partner plenty of ideas to do all season long.

II. #Relationship Goals:Ā 

The first time I saw this hashtag I nearly giggled. “Who ever thought that was a good idea?” I wondered to myself. But social media sucks up these ideas that if you travel to a foreign country, or have an elaborate proposal that suddenly you’re doing what you’re “supposed to do” for a relationship. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Let me clear the air here, my friends. The only relationship goals you need to have are things you already possess. You simply need to cultivate them together. I put together a list of what I believe should be realistic #relationship goals:

  • Be patient with your partner. Yes, even when they are working your last nerve, take a breath and remind yourself to be patient. You’ll be glad that you did.
  • Be kind to your partner. It may seem obvious, but it’s easy to be in such a rush that we forget to do little things to show our partner that we care. Choose to always strive for kindness and consideration in your relationship.
  • Be committed to your D/s relationship. There will be a million times when you don’t feel like you have the time or energy to lead or submit. But do so anyway. Push a little more. Work a little harder. It keeps the spark alive.
  • Love your partner through richer, poorer, and especially poorer. Your partner is likely not rich, and if they are God bless’em. But being committed to your partner means that no matter if you two need to do a D/s date at McDonald’s or at a five star Michelin restaurant, it doesn’t matter. You do what you need to do, and go where you need to go, because that’s the stage of life where you’re at. You love your partner and you’re in this bond together. Period. If you need to get scrappy with your pennies, get creative with your date! (Check out other posts of mine where I discuss how to do DDLG things on a dime!).
  • Learn to fight fair. You want a relationship goal? Learn to fight fair. That’s probably the best relationship goal to master. Learn to disagree without cutting each other down. Learn to control your temper. Learn to walk away, take a breath, and then discuss your feelings. Things will go 10 x more smoothly if you do.
  • Put positive people around you as a couple. Make friends with people who uplift you as a D/s couple. Make friends in the community. You want friends who understand your lifestyle and will cheer you on as a couple.
  • No matter what, be transparent, and honest about your feelings. If you take nothing else away from this list, remember this: if you are 100% honest at all times, you never have anything to hide. Your bond will be so strong because you will have put everything out there, all the time, that your partner will never doubt how you feel. Just get brutally honest. It’s actually quite refreshing. šŸ˜‰


III. The Top 5 International Cities for Littles:Ā 

I have to give a big shout out to my fellow littles in this last section. I love to travel and see new places. I recently visited the Hello Kitty Grand Cafe and squealed my head off with excitement. It reminded me how important it is to weave Cg/l into our travel itineraries. As such, while I already have written about the best places to take your Little in the U.S., here are 5 international cities with plenty of things to do if you’re into Cg/l:

  • Tokyo, Japan: It’s probably no surprise that this is the first city that I’m mentioning. It’s the home of harajuku fashion. It’s the home of anime, manga, and Sanrio. It’s the home of sakura trees, and personal robotic assistants. It’s the home of capsule hotels and karaoke bars aplenty. Yes, there is always something to do in Tokyo as it is the city that never sleeps! So grab your Little and head off for a sensory-fueled experience in the “land of the rising sun”.
  • NYC, New York, USA: Grab your Little and head to the Big Apple to explore everything kawaii. There is the Sakura Matsuri Botanical Garden in Brooklyn and The Macy’s Flower Show. There are incredible restaurants to taste takoyaki and sushi in the East Side’s Little Tokyo, and even a real Sprinkles Cupcake ATM machine!! (How adorable is that?!)
  • Rome, Italy: Roma! Roma! Roma! Is there any other city in the world more romantic than Rome? There are rowboats to rent in the city square. You can walk hand in hand with your Little feasting on fresh gelato and piping hot pizza. You can attend gladiator school or make a wish at the trevi fountain. There’s even a cat sanctuary in the heart of Rome where you can stop and swoon over these four legged feline friends!
  • London, UK: Whether you’re shopping with your Little at Harrod’s or setting off on a scavenger hunt to retrace Harry Potter’s footsteps… there’s always something to do in London. There’s the London Eye (a giant ferris wheel) and The London Zoo. There are museums aplenty and an excellent aquarium too! I have to give London bonus points here because they also have a booming vegan restaurant scene, for all my fellow vegans and vegetarians. šŸ˜‰
  • Stockholm, Sweden: This might seem an unlikely choice, but lend me your ears, my friends. Stockholm is an excellent and safe place to travel to with your Little. They have Junibacken, an interactive museum where your Little can play in playhouses and pretend to be Pippi Longstocking. Not to mention that their museum gift shop has the largest children’s bookshop in all of Sweden!!! If that doesn’t make you squeal, I don’t know what will šŸ˜€ And if your Little gets the urge to swim, head to Eriksdalsbadet, a huuuge indoor/outdoor waterpark and swimming arena. (Yes, arena!). And lastly, Stockholm has an excellent amusement park, called Gronalund where you can win your little a plushie to take home. šŸ™‚

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Have a wonderful evening, and I will see you back here for the next post!

Much love,

~Kitten/Punkin Xx



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