Day 57 of Little Introspection: Is Routine Important in a Little’s Life?

Good Morning Friends!

As we near the finish line of the 60 Days of Little Introspection, I am giddy with excitement at all that September has to come. But first, hi! How are you?! 🙂 I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend. If you’re new to my blog, welcome. ❤ I’m so glad you’re here. My name is Penny Berry, but I also go by Punkin or Punkin Pie (the name which my Daddy gave me). Today we’re going to focus our attention on routine, and why implementing routine into your Little’s life can be a huge benefit. Are you ready to come along with me? Then, let’s dive in. 🙂

Daily Routine. Vector set with funny girl.


I. Routine for Stability: 

It’s human nature to begin to fall into habits and routines. We are all creatures of routine in some way, shape, or form. Whether we rise with the sun, or do a certain set of actions throughout our day in a specific order, each one of us has an embedded routine. One aspect of D/s relationships that I love is the ability to implement a positive, healthy routine for both the dominant and submissive. Routines provide stability. Your submissive will grow to know what to expect throughout their day at certain times. The routine that you set forth will become the song of their life, so choose wisely what tasks and behaviors that you want to see them demonstrate.

We all need a certain degree of stability. Personally, as someone who lives with anxiety, routine is especially important to me. Though my Daddy and I are a long distance D/s couple, we have patterns of behavior that we exhibit every day that provide stability for our relationship and for our lives. We grow comfortable with hearing that ding! first thing in the morning as we greet each other and the day. We also message each other right before we head to bed, as a way of drawing closure to the day as well. Think about what kind of routine you have with your own dominant. Does it provide stability in your life? Is there any aspect of your routine that you’d like to improve upon to provide you greater comfort in the future?

II. Routine for Rule Implementation: 

Giving your submissive rules is another great way to provide structure and routine to their life. Pick out what clothing they should wear. Monitor their eating to ensure that they are making healthy food choices. Have rules in place to give them gentle exercise and intentional movement. Create rules that monitor their mental health and give them an outlet to decompress from stressful moments, because life happens. Stress happens. Hiccups that we didn’t see coming will happen. It’s how we band together as a couple that makes all the difference in the world. Do you have rules in place that will help navigate your day and elevate you towards healthier habits? Do you have rules in your D/s relationship to stem bad habits that you’ve formed? Lord knows we all have bad habits.

If I’m being transparent here, I can have a bit of a mouth on me when I get really rockin’ and roll’in. So, my Daddy has implemented a rule to limit my use of “naughty words”, even when I’m frustrated. It’s a learning process 😉 but one that I’m grateful to have, because it slows down my day. If you don’t have rules within your D/s relationship yet, I encourage you to sit down with your dominant and create some together. Be open about what areas of your life you’d like to improve upon. Then have your dominant target those by creating rules to help you work on yourself. 🙂 I assure you it’s a very rewarding process.

III. Routine for Working Towards Personal Goals: 

We all have personal goals, and if you’re like me, then you need your dominant to help keep you highly structured to make sure you don’t get overwhelmed. Just the other day, my Daddy said to me, “Punkin, you and I are going to sit down next week and create a schedule of what writing tasks you want to accomplish so that you don’t get overwhelmed”. I can be a bit of a write-aholic lol. But having personal goals is healthy and beneficial. Dream big. Push yourself to your limits. Have your dominant develop a routine that will help you baby step your way towards your goals. If you want to lose weight, have them create a workout schedule for you. (Bonus points if you workout together! 😉 ). Perhaps you want to learn a new skill or a foreign language? Have your dominant give you tasks that will force you to carve out time to study and hone your developing skill. Shift your routine to make space for personal development. You only have one life to live, my friends. Let’s make it a great one. ❤ 

IV. Routine for Relationship Communication: 

When it comes to relationship communication routine is absolutely vital. For those new to my blog, here’s a quick background on me. I’m a Little. 🙂 I’ve been happily married to my bestie and husband for 7 years. I also have a wonderful dominant and partner outside of my marriage and we are a long distance D/s couple. (But we’re meeting face to face on Monday! *squeals*!!). So, needless to say, communication is a HUGE part of my life. But keeping it real, routine and communication is important for every connection that we all have, right? How we communicate as a couple determines the health of our relationship. I encourage you to think about developing routines for your own relationship communication. Here are a few examples of my own day to day patterns:

  • I wake up and grab my phone first. Daddy wakes up before me since he is in EST and I’m in PST. So I text him back good morning and begin my day.
  • I then wake up my husband and get the day going around the house.
  • Usually mid-morning my Daddy and I will text with what we’re up to and swap a pic or two. 🙂
  • Mid-afternoon I snuggle up to my husband and take time to chat before he takes a weekend siesta.
  • Around dinner time my Daddy and I text to give some love and remind each other that we’re thinking about each other. Sometimes we share what we’re cooking up for supper.
  • Bedtime: Daddy always sends me a text first when he’s headed off to bed and so I text him goodnight. Then when it’s my bedtime (on PST) I crawl into bed, say prayers with my husband, and crash. ❤

Do you have your own routine for relationship communication? Have you established little things to expect on the day to day that keep your spark alive? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences! Comment and let me know!

Alright my friends, that’s it for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. I hope you all have a wonderful Saturday, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Punkin Xx


  1. I couldn’t have said it better myself, Punkin. Routines are important in order to help maintain a balance your life. But, at the same time, there is definitely a need for spontaneity. Otherwise, the routine turns into a rut. Like a wagon going down the same trail all the time until it gets so deep, the wagon eventually gets stuck. So, yeah, routines are great, but it is also good to throw in a bit of spontaneity and shift that trail a bit.

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