How I Self-Soothe as an Adult Little

Good Morning Friends,

This morning I had every intention of starting the day off with another post in the “Nerdy Littles” series. And we will get there, but my night was filled with bad dreams and tossing in my hammock. As such, I woke up groggy and lethargic. It’s in this frame of mind that I come here to my sticker-clad laptop to write to you about how I self-soothe as a Little. It’s my hope that this post gives you some inspiration for whenever you are feeling “off” or regress when you don’t feel well.

There are many things that push me into a state of age regression. Nightmares are definitely one of them. Last night I dreamed that someone was trying to abduct my daughter. Shame on me for reading the news last night, which had a detailed article about a poor 5 year old who is still missing and was abducted at a local park. My prayers and thoughts go out to that family. It’s strange what the brain holds onto. My anxiety that I’ve been battling for over a decade is stemmed in a lack of feeling protected, and a greater need to protect my only child. After traumatic situations in my past, my brain began to over-compensate and grow too anxious in its need to make sure my child was okay at all times. Finally I got help and medication, and it set me on the track towards recovery and wellness.

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But last night I had nightmares. It happens. Which meant that I woke up feeling extremely Little. My husband is away on a business trip at the moment, so I don’t have a caregiver in the home to nurture “Little Me”. I have to lean on myself. Which brings me to today’s topic: how I self-soothe when I’m feeling Little and I’m by myself. Are you ready to explore this topic with me? Then, let’s dive in.

I. Heat

Heat is glorious when you’re feeling anxious and in a state of age regression. Whether it’s a heat dish, a heating pad, a cup of hot tea or cocoa… heat can soothe and make you feel small and comforted. Heat gives us a subconscious feeling of safety. It’s a primal instinct to turn to heat when we are feeling small, unsure, and nervous. Think about camping. What is one of the first things you do when you get settled on your campsite? Start a fire! Yes, when I’m feeling Little for a reason other than my normal baseline of happiness and bubbles… I turn towards heat. Currently as I type this to you, I’m hugging my heating pad to my chest to self-soothe. It helps greatly.

II. Wear Little Clothing

The next way that I self-soothe is to express myself through fashion. I could have pulled on any piece of clothing this morning. But I woke up feeling groggy and exhausted. I felt Little and in need of snuggles. While I won’t get snuggled today, I was able to slip on Little clothes to reflect my mental state of mind. Today I’m wearing my blue kawaii star romper top from Lil Kink Boutique, a pair of blue sweatpants, and my Hello Kitty slippers. It’s comfortable, warm, and makes me feel small. Do you let your fashion reflect your mood? 🙂 What do you wear when you’re feeling small? Comment and let me know! I’d love to hear from you.

III. Music

I have no doubt that music is truly good for the soul. We all listen to our own preferences, but I highly encourage you to create a Little Playlist for those times when you’re in the head-space and need to self-soothe. My little playlist is filled with happy, uplifting pop music. I like 80’s pop. I like boy bands (BSB!). I like Nightcore, and I like Jason Derulo. When I have the need to self-soothe, I crank on some tunes and let the music wrap around me like a blanket. I block out the world and just connect with the music. Before long, my mind stills and the music begins to welcome in happiness, hope, joy, and peace. I shake my hips and bop my head. I grab my daughter’s hands as we dance around our tiny home. Yes, music is an excellent way to soothe and get out all of the negative energy from your system.

IV. Watch Your Favorite Program

Now, I live on a beautiful farm… with the world’s crappiest internet and cell phone signal. (It’s so bad that the local internet company has to come dig trenches to lay pipes and wires to get us cable internet! But I digress). So, when it comes to watching TV or movies… it’s slim pickings around here. However, if there’s a will there’s a way, my friends… and this Little has found a way!! Did you know that you can download Netflix movies on your Netflix Instant Watch account? One way that I self-soothe is to head into town to my local Starbucks. I hop on their wifi, download the Netflix movies that I enjoy (usually cute rom-com’s) and then watch them back at home. Simply login to your Netflix account, hit the menu bar on the left, and you’ll see an area of “Movies to Download”. Not every show or movie can be downloaded, and TV shows can only be downloaded 4 episodes at a time. But, it’s better than nothing! It’s a great service for people like me who are living in an area with icky internet.

V. Treat Yourself to a Nice Meal

The last way that I self-soothe is to make myself a nice meal. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. But you know what that one meal is that whenever you have it you exhale with a smile and a sigh. For me, it’s poached eggs on rosemary toast. It’s simple. It’s humble. But it’s so delicious. Rosemary bread with a thin layer of unsalted butter, topped with a poached egg with just a tiny pinch of black pepper on top. Mmpf! Food can comfort… soothe… and nourish you to feel centered again. 🙂

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten/Punkin xx

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