Good Evening Friends,
Thank you SO much for all of the birthday wishes and love! You all are the best. Tonight I want to dive into our weekly tea time topic as we unwind for the night.
Topic: How to Lose Your Guilt as a Daddy Dom
I’ve heard from several dominant friends that when they entered the lifestyle, it was a struggle for them to accept that they were attracted to Littles. Initially, many of these dominants saw the “kink” side of the Cg/l community. In other words, they saw Littles who were more vocal and “out” on social media, posting images designed to arouse and entice their audience. The very nature of Littles who engage in the kink side of DDLG, is to create an illusion of being young… fresh-faced… playful… and arousing. Their onesies hug their curves. Thigh high socks draw attention to their legs. And for many dominants, there can be a feeling of guilt for desiring, or being attracted to a Little.
So how do we help our wonderful dominants lose this sense of guilt? That, my friends, is tonight’s topic. Are you ready? Then, let’s dive in!
I. Remember That Every Little is a Legal Adult:
The first thing that I would tell every dominant who is feeling guilty about wanting to be a Daddy or Mommy is to remember that every Little is a legal adult. Or they should be! (Are there underage littles floating around? Yes. But that’s for another topic. 😉 ). The Little that you’re enticed by is actually (likely) a 20-something year old who is simply wearing clothing to regress. Other Littles you may be attracted to aren’t into the kink side of things at all! We’re just happy adults who regress into Little Space to make wonderful memories and bring a smile to the people around us. Being attracted to another legal adult (21 years or older) is not wrong. It doesn’t make you “bad” or dirty or anything else.
II. You’re NOT a Pedophile:
An adult Little has absolutely nothing to do with an actual child. Dominants new to the Cg/l lifestyle commonly feel guilt because society has said that DDLG is another form of pedophilia. This is completely FALSE!
A Dd/lg relationship is a relationship where two consensual adults enter into a dynamic where the dominant assumes the role of a caregiver/protector over the submissive. Cg/l or Dd/lg is a form of domination and submission and should only be entered into by two legal adults.
III. Being a Caregiver to an Adult Little Isn’t Easy. Pat Yourself on the Back!:
There is a common misconception that being a Daddy or Mommy is easy. Even typing this now I begin to smirk because that is SO far from the truth. The truth is that being a caregiver to an adult little is difficult, even if you live together! Is it worth it? Oh, absolutely. In a true, healthy Cg/l relationship, the caregiver works tirelessly to guide, love, support, nurture, and protect their littles through every up and down of their life. They are a pillar of support in their life. They establish rules that will strengthen and uplift their Little to be the best person they can be, all while shaping their Little to serve them in meeting the dominant’s needs too!
A D/s relationship is complex with many layers of trust, understanding, and a boatload of patience! But it’s worth it, because once you find the dominant (or submissive) that can fulfill those needs…. you feel enriched and supported in an entirely new way. Likewise, the Little thrives from having their caregiver who is stable, patient, understanding, and deeply loving. It’s a tall order for the dominant to fulfill but they do so, because they yearn to earn the heart of their Little. They crave to see their Little kneel in full submission before them and give the gift of their total surrender to them. Trust me when I say that it’s all encompassing and completely gratifying.
So, to all you new dominants out there, pat yourself on the back. Choosing to learn, grow, and work hard on yourself to be a great Mommy or Daddy is no easy task! You’re choosing a difficult path, but one that (with time and much practice) you will master and be able to care for your Little with all of you. There is never a need to feel guilt over something so beautiful. 🙂
And now… let’s talk about food!
Today’s Toddler Tea Time recipe comes from my husband Captain Taliron Quinn! Lately he has been making these buttermilk pancakes from scratch that are so damn good!! They are deeply flavorful and a pinch to pull together. I hope you all enjoy them as much as I do! My apologies for the picture being sub-par. In truth, I snapped this picture moments before I devoured my plate of pancakes (hehe!)
Have a wonderful night, my friends! See you back here in the morning!
Cappy’s Buttermilk Pancakes
- 2 c. flour
- 2 c. buttermilk
- ½ stick butter
- 1 c. unsweetened applesauce
- 1 c. water
- 1 tsp. baking powder
- 2 eggs
- 1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice
- 1 tsp. ground cinnamon
- In a non-stick pan, place 1 tablespoon of butter. Turn the heat to medium and add in 1 ladle of pancake batter.
- Fry for 2-3 minutes. Look for bubbles to form around the edge and over the pancake. Using a spatula, flip the pancake to the other side.
- Repeat frying for an additional 2-3 minutes or until golden brown.
- Grease the pan with another tablespoon of butter and begin again until the rest of the batter is used up!
- Drizzle with your favorite toppings, serve hot, and enjoy! ❤