Good Morning Friends!
Happy Boxing Day to those celebrating! And happy shopping to all those scooping up the post-Christmas sales. Over Christmas, I sat down with a pen and paper and began sketching out a thought I had: I want to give a closer examination at DD/lg and redefine how a Little looks exactly.
Why? Well, for several reasons:
- There is a common misconception that when a person labels themselves as being a part of the Cg/l or Dd/lg community, that the first thing people think of are onesies, diapers, and pacifiers. This isn’t to say that Littles don’t wear that, because they certainly can (and some do!). But there is no “one size fits all” for Littles and this short series is going to dive further into that concept.
- Many Littles are busy adults with day jobs, families to care for, and responsibilities to uphold. I want to focus on how to channel your inner child mindset as a way of staying anchored to that piece of yourself when you have to be in your adult mode.
- Lastly, I want to share how tapping into your inner child can make you feel young, happy, mentally unburdened, and feeling in touch with your innermost parts of your being.
Everyone has the capacity to connect with their “inner child”. All you need to do is try. Are you ready to explore this topic with me? Then, let’s dive in.
I. Finding Your Own Label Between “Little Me”, “Inner Child”, and “Little”:
I once watched a wonderful TED talk by Kermit the Frog who discussed how easy it is for adults to dismiss the importance of making time to be creative. Being creative is a part of our genetic makeup. We all have a natural inclination to be creative in some fashion, and it all begins in our early childhood years. As children, we grow, explore, and seek out things with wild abandon. There is a thrill in trying something new, and splashing paint across a canvas just to see how it would look. We test out new instruments, or hop into a new sport simply for the experience of it all. We give ourselves permission to be creative and soak up the fun of life.
But for many of us, once we become adults we shift our sights towards bills, rent, feeding the family, and the days roll by where we give up on making space for play. I’m here to tell you that your childhood self still lives within the core of your being. There is a part of you that is yearning to simply play. Play is so healthy! When was the last time you did something purely for the fun of it? When was the last time you tried a new activity? I’m not suggesting that you abandon your job, or skip paying your bills. But there is definitely a way for everyone to carve out a few precious minutes to tap into that “inner child”, and we’re going to dive into the “how” throughout this series.
We can begin by growing more comfortable with accepting that there is a part of you inside that is rooted to your childhood. Whatever you call that piece of yourself is entirely up to you. Some like to identify it as an “inner child”. Others address it as “little me”, and still others simply as being “little”. The core of all of these labels is the same: it is a legal adult connecting with the mindset of their childhood self. That is the heart of a Little, and what everyone can tap into.
II. The Benefits of Making Space For Play:
Reconnecting with your “inner child” is something that never has an age limit. I am a firm believer that age is simply a number. It is indicative of the biological age of how long you’ve been alive, but that is it. Regardless of your age, everyone can connect with their inner Little self and there are numerous benefits if you do! First, making space for play allows a person to be more productive. Studies have proven that adults are much more productive when they have time to relax and enjoy life outside of the hectic hours of work. It allows the mind to mentally recharge.
Making space for play also allows us to tap into creative endeavors that, perhaps, we’ve never tried before. Have you ever made a bucket list? If not, I encourage you to do so! New Year’s is just around the corner and now is the perfect time to create a list of things that you’d like to do in 2020.
III. Seeing Your “Inner Child” in Your Mind’s Eye:
The final point I’d like to touch on in this post is how to envision yourself in this playful mindset. If I’m keeping it real with you, I’ll let you know a secret: there is no “way” to be an adult little. You don’t need anything to tap into that part of your being. It’s already there! Simply close your eyes and daydream for a moment. Remember who you were as a child. What did you look like? What did you feel like? Were you an introverted or extroverted child? What did you want to be when you grew up? What was your favorite toy as a child? As you begin to reflect on who you were, those emotions will begin to surface in your mind. Sit with them. Embrace them like a hug. Remember that toy, and then challenge yourself to see if you can find it for sale online. Simply track it down online to see if you can. Make it a game for yourself!
Guess what? You just tapped into your “inner child”. 😉
That feeling of pure joy is where your inner little thrives. It’s the place where you can take off your adult hat for a few minutes and simply have fun. You don’t need to stress about having to connect with the Cg/l community, or question if having an “inner child” makes you weird. Your inner child is a part of you. It’s a piece of your being. It’s as simple as that. So, sit with that light, joyful space. Step into it a little more when you’re ready. Turn on a song you enjoyed as a child. (I’m sure they have it on YouTube). Then, sit back and listen. For just a few moments, close your eyes and mentally slip into your inner child’s mind. See the world through their eyes. Sit with the emotions that bubble up.
When you’re ready, open your eyes. Smile and thank your inner child for being with you. Love and nurture it, because self-love is so important. Savor that feeling of being young again. Then, get ready to explore more about this very topic as we journey forward tomorrow morning.
Have a wonderful day, everyone!