Happy New Year’s Day, My Friends!!
I hope you all are resting and relaxing across the world. It’s a brand new decade and I don’t know about you, but I can simply feel the fresh, creative energy in the air! Today, Elena and I are going to discuss D/s names and why they are so important. I have previous discussed the importance of your Little name, as it is such a large part of your personal identity. So, today I’m going to share with you the names that my husband and I use on a day to day basis. These names definitely reflect us as an interracial and bilingual couple. They also demonstrate the nature of our D/s dynamic as well. I hope you all enjoy this post. Now, let’s dive in. 🙂
I. My Names:
Kitten Kaboodle: 99% of the time I am called Kitten. By nature I am a snuggle-bug. I love my head and back being rubbed. I am huge on my physical environment being “just right” to my needs, meaning I choose soft textures for throw blankets. I light scented candles on the daily, and I adjust the blinds with the rising and setting of the sun. Like a cat, I am picky about my comfort level. I don’t like large crowds and I sleep best when I am touching a single body part of my husbands body (lol).
Little One: When I’m feeling feisty and playful, Daddy usually will tickle my chin and play right along. “What are you up to, Little One?” he will say to me, and I turn into a puddle inside. Being called little one instantly regresses my mind and makes me head-over-heels happy inside.
Asawa ko: This is the Tagalog word for “my spouse” but used in a deeply loving way. It’s the Filipino version of calling your partner “Hubby” or “Wifey”. Given that we speak Taglish (Tagalog and English) in the home, this is our term that we use when we’re out and about.
Mahal ko: Another name that we use quite often is “mahal ko” which translates to “my love” in Tagalog. I just love this label. It’s so tender, loving, and sweet. It rolls off the tongue and I love hugging Daddy from behind as I mumble it into his back. It isn’t gender-specific, so we call each other mahal quite a bit! 🙂
Daddy’s Little Cumslut: *smirks slyly* This is the name we use during boomies. It’s pretty self-explanatory.
II. Hubby’s Names:
Daddy (or Dada)!!!: 99% of the time I call hubby, Daddy. Why? Well, because he’s my Daddy! We’ve been together for 7 years and I haven’t had a relationship with my own father in years and years that, to have my husband guide me with a firm, but tender hand, makes the label feel right. Calling him Daddy also keeps him tethered to his dominant side. So, it’s rewarding for us both.
Nani/ Na Na: If I’m baby babbling deep in Little Space then Daddy gets shortened to Nani or Na Na. It’s so ingrained in his mind now, that if I call out, “Nani!” across the house… he’ll totally answer (lol). It’s awesome.
Panginoon: This is the Tagalog word that translates to “Lord” or “Master”. I use it when I’ve overstepped my bounds, but not really gotten in trouble. It’s more my way of lowering my head in submission and re-shifting the power back to him. For him, hearing me call him Master in his native language feels very rewarding inside. He will usually stroke my head tenderly and we move on, both happy as a clam. 🙂
Laoban: This is a name we picked up and thoroughly enjoy using after watching a Chinese drama series, “Just You”. (It’s available on Netflix. Go watch it! It’s awesome! 😀 ). Laoban is Mandarin for “boss”, but when said with a gentle inflection, it’s simply moving.
III. Why Names Are Deeply Important:
When I got into the Cg/l lifestyle, and discovered that I really am an adult little, there were commonly used names that just did not resonate with me! I saw many Littles out there being called “Angel” or “Princess”. I saw others being called “Baby Boo” or “Petal”. And while I am a firm believer in being called what you want, for me, those names didn’t resonate with who I am. I would encourage everyone to choose a name that fits with their personality and soul. I can easily envision myself as a cat in my mind’s eye which is why I don’t mind being called kitten. Likewise, you should pick a name that suits you! Whether you’re a doodlebug, princess, or a poppit… find a name that feels right and stick with it. It will shape your identity as a Little. You may not have been able to choose your given birth name, but in the BDSM world YOU get to pick what name you wish to go by. Isn’t that amazing?! 🙂
IV. Dominants Need to Carve Out Their Titles Too:
When Hubby began growing and discovering the dominant part of himself, there were names that felt right and names that didn’t. So often we read about names to give your submissive. But dominants have to journey to find their own titles that feel right too. Some commonly used titles for dominants include:
- Sir/ Ma’am
- Master/ Mistress
- King/ Queen
Your dominant will have an idea of what title feels right for them. But there’s also some time needed to use these titles back and forth with each other to see if it feels good. Take time to call each other a variety of titles until you develop your own set that feels right. In the world of BDSM, as long as you both consent to the titles you use… it doesn’t matter what the world thinks! Be your own unique couple. 🙂
IV. Shifting Titles When Out in Public:
For many kinky couples, you will have several titles that work for moments when you are in private versus when you’re around vanilla company. This is normal (and highly encouraged). You don’t want your guests or vanilla family feeling uncomfortable if you suddenly call your partner “Daddy” at the dinner table (lol). Agree to some names ahead of time on what you’re going to use when out in public. Daddy and I usually shift to “Love” or “Mahal ko” when we are out and about. Then, in the privacy of our home (or around other kinky peeps) we switch back to Daddy and Kitten.
As we move into the new year, make space to think about the titles you call yourself and your partner. Do they resonate with you? Would you like to adopt a new name for yourself? Take time to reflect over your feelings, and when you’re ready, share them with your partner. You’ll be so glad that you did.
Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here. Comment below and let me know what names and titles resonate with you. I’d love to hear from you! Have a wonderful jump start to the new year and I will see you back here tonight! 🙂