Day 11 of The Dominant’s Den: Developing a Hygiene Routine with Your Little

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Good Afternoon Friends!

Happy Hump Day! We’re almost to Friday and today we are diving into hygiene and how you, as the dominant, can make your Little or submissive feel clean, happy, and refreshed in their own body. As the Captain and I dove deeper and deeper into D/s and he got to know “Little Me”, it became clear that care-giving and hygiene was something we wanted to incorporate. But if I’m being completely transparent…. I was nervous in letting him do so! I had always been the type of girl to jump in the shower, wash myself, and take care of all of my needs on my own. But the night that he commanded me to lay down on the bed and spread my legs, I did a double take.

“Huh?” I said, baffled and caught off guard. He commanded me again and slowly… cautiously… I moved to lay down. It probably seems silly that as a married woman who has been intimate with her husband, here I was nervous to lay exposed before him. But I was. This wasn’t a sexual moment where he was about to tease my princess parts. This was a care-giving moment where he wanted to take care of my body and make me feel loved in a different way. So I laid there and slowly spread my thighs apart. My lips pursed as I gazed down at him. I saw him sit on the bed with our prepared basket of pampering tools and pull out a tub of diaper wipes. Ever so tenderly he wiped the petal-y folds of my slit and admired my pink skin. I watched his eyes soften. As he placed some baby powder into his palm and the scent filled the air, my mind shifted into little space. He stroked my thighs and slit giving each gentle pat of satisfaction when he was finished. “Now let’s lotion you up” he said lovingly, and I nodded with a happy smile. We had just entered another level of Cg/l and were completely enjoying ourselves.

Tonight we’re going to explore how you can provide various means of personal hygiene to (and with) your sub, and help them feel whole, loved, and nourished. Are you ready to explore this with me? Then, let’s dive in.

I. What is a “Lovies Routine”? 

Daddy and I nicknamed our hygiene routine a “lovies routine” because it is an act between the dominant and submissive that is born from a place of love. It’s a different sensation being cared for physically. It’s not that you can’t do it, but rather that the dominant yearns to keep their Little pristine and feeling good in their body. Now, for us, a lovies routine needs a basic kit of items. In ours we include:

  • Unscented diaper wipes
  • Coconut oil
  • Baby powder for sensitive skin
  • A hair brush
  • A pumice
  • And an electric massager

We keep all of these items in a little basket between our hammocks on the ground. This makes it simple to grab whenever the mood strikes for some tender care-giving. Incorporating a lovies routine into your daily schedule is something you’ll want to discuss with your Little at length before you dive in. Have them consent to what they feel comfortable with, and what they’d prefer to do on their own, and stick to it. It can be nerve-racking opening yourself up (likely naked) before your partner, but in many ways it’s also liberating. Daddy used a series of gradual steps with me before we began our lovies routine since, by nature, I was more shy and modest. (Not anymore! Hehe >:) ).

The first thing he did was to get me comfortable with P.D.A. I know! I was that shy when we met that when he would kiss me in public, I would blush. When I got over the hurdle of being affectionate in public and we had moved in together, he began to shower with me. Once I felt comfortable with that, he took things up another giant level and watched me pee. Y’all… the first time he did that I felt mortified! It was something that had been ingrained from an early age that you’re supposed to shut the door, lock it, turn on water, and play a radio if need be. And yet, there was my Daddy making me look him in the eye as I turned Fifty Shades of Red peeing. He had broken me. Something in me transformed as we hit that level of comfort and acceptance with each other. Time moved on and he was then able to begin touching my body through gentle, compassionate hygiene practices. It feels so loving and soothing that my words on this page won’t do it enough justice. But suffice it to say that as a submissive, when your dominant is cleaning you all over… stroking your skin… and making you feel cherished and provided for… it’s both incredibly arousing and deeply bonding.

II. Mental Health and Hygiene: 

Now I’d like to just touch upon depression and anxiety here in this post, because I have faced my fair share of battles with both. When you’re living and struggling with depression or anxiety, (or both), there are times when just standing up to walk across the room and brush your teeth feels daunting. It feels draining. Depression and anxiety can make you feel listless and lethargic to the point where you know you need to shower…. but it feels so difficult to do! I know. I’ve been there, my friends, and if you’re suffering from a mental health issue at the moment, please know that you’re not alone. Having extra love and support from your partner to bathe, brush your teeth, and push you to get washed is one tiny step forward in feeling better. I encourage you to allow your partner to help you. We all need somebody to lean on. 🙂 ❤

III. Using Natural Products to Boost Your Health: 

Dominants, lend me your ears my friends, because this is an area of Little Space that isn’t spoken enough about. We all know that dominants need to make rules in the relationship that uplift, support, and encourage your submissive to be the best person that they can be. This includes hygiene rules such as: shower daily, exercise several times a week, stay hydrated fully, etc. But what we don’t discuss are the products that your submissive is using! While Mr. Bubble Bubble Bath Soap is cute and pink… it can actually irritate the vagina if soap residue isn’t washed properly. And sure, kids shampoo with the cartoon characters may look adorable… but it can also throw off the pH balance on your submissive’s scalp. I encourage you to discuss with your partner what hygiene products they are using. Make a pact together to switch to more ethical, plant-based products that will boost their overall health. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Switch from scented soap bought by the bulk to coconut oil-based Vegan soap.
  • Try using a plant based shampoo or castile soap for their hair. If your Little is having dandruff, a few treatments of washing with apple cider vinegar OR mashed up banana will actually restore balance to the scalp and make their hair shine. 🙂
  • Try using a 0% natural deodorant stick. Dove makes a great stick for women. This 0% aluminum deodorant is an all-natural blend with no antiperspirant that many of us are allergic to.
  • If you and your sub are using manual toothbrushes, try switching to wooden toothbrushes. They are compostable and the same price as plastic!
  • Get your Little a stainless steel shaving razor. It can last a lifetime and all you need to do is switch out the blades. 🙂 Pretty cool, right?
  • Lastly, invest in a tub… no… a VAT of organic coconut oil! 🙂 You can encourage your submissive to do oil pulling in the morning after they brush their teeth which literally draws out icky bacteria that enters your mouth while you sleep. You can lotion their body with it. You can cook with it…. or use it “down there” during play sessions… Yeah, it’s pretty handy. 😉

IV. Daily Gentle Guidance Exercise: Clean One Part of Your Submissive’s Body

I remember when I once worked in an assisted living facility. It was the first time that I had to provide daily hygiene for another adult. Kids are wiggly and so if you’re changing their diaper, you can shift them around as you clean up the mess. But when you’re cleaning up an adult you need to be more gentle physically and emotionally. It takes tenderness and tact to keep them at ease. During my training as a caregiver, we had to practice brushing each other’s teeth so that we could experience the sensation of what it was like to surrender power to another person in a mundane task. The feeling was WILD! I had to stand there with my mouth wide open as my co-worker scrubbed my teeth, and then I brushed hers. But it felt so strange to let someone do that. However, knowing the sensation, I was able to approach my patients with greater love and compassion. I encourage you to use this same mindset with your submissive.

Approach their body with tenderness and compassion. Get them comfortable on a couch or bed where they feel relaxed and at ease. Then, when you both are ready, gently provide them physical hygienic care. Pick a body spot that you both consent to, and clean it with diaper wipes. Feel the love and domination of caring for your little one. If you’re the submissive, surrender to the feeling of being cared for. Allow yourself to fall into little space with trust and acceptance for your dominant. It’s a very moving and rewarding experience. ❤

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here first thing in the morning! 🙂

Much love,

~Kitten xx

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