Day 19 of The Dominant’s Den: Protecting Your Little From Online “Detrimental Doms”

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Good Afternoon Friends,

Did you know that y’all are simply the best? Thank you for all the likes, comments, love, and support. After resting for the majority of the day, and hopping on Guild Wars 2, I’m feeling much happier and back to my baseline again. Tonight we’re discussing how to protect your Little in this vast wild west that we call the Internet. Yes, it can be a jungle online full of nice, great, weird, and even downright creepy people. Isn’t it fascinating how technology can bring people together in ways that time and space can’t? On one hand, it’s a blessing. On the other, you’ll find people that you can’t /block fast enough! Lol. Tonight we’re going to discuss how to keep your Little safe from all the Tinder Daddies, Creepy Tweeters, and every “rotten apple” in between. Are you ready? Then, let’s dive in!

I. Educate Your Little on the “Red Flags” of Wannabe Doms: 

When it comes to the world of BDSM and DDLG, there are people aplenty who claim to be doms, but have no business doing so. Your Little is likely out there online with social media accounts surrounded by people who have ill intentions. Take time to pull your Little aside and talk to them about red flags to watch out for. Here are a few prime examples of “detrimental doms”:

  • Mr. Moving Too Fast: If a dominant calls you baby girl, or slides into your DMs giving you a submissive name right off the bat… run. First off, you’re taken. You already have a dominant, so they have no right to give you a special name. Second, there’s a proper way to speak to a Little when you’re not bonded to each other, and pet names is not it! So, if you meet someone trying to put on the moves /block and ignore quickly.
  • Mr. Know It All: Let your Little know that there will be TONS of people in the BDSM world who will claim to be “knowledgeable” about D/s and to know it all. The truth is, no one knows it all. Should you have a decent grasp of the foundation of the lifestyle? Of course. Should you continue to learn, evolve, and grow? Absolutely! But no person out there should act like they have an answer for every question about D/s and BDSM. The danger of these types of people is that they often spout “advice” that is actually incorrect. They give misleading information that can cause harm and injury to those who listen to their words. Educate yourself from reliable resources and then push those people to the side and keep on stepping.
  • Mr. Nosy: This person is the person on social media who asks to see your picture after talking to you for an hour. I get it, we’re Littles. It’s natural to be curious about our looks. Remind your Little that they NEVER need to feel pressured to show their picture to anyone and a true gentleman or lady would never ask for a picture so quickly (especially since you’re taken!). Instead, a healthy dominant-friend would much rather focus on the friendship before the image.
  • Mr. Dickhead… Literally: Lastly, let your Little know that there may be people who slide into their DMs with a picture of their penis. Not their face. Not a witty meme. A picture of their dick. Why? Because they’re a dickhead and should be blocked, reported, and banned promptly. *sage nod*

II. Teaching Your Little to Repel Unwanted Attention: 

This next lesson is extremely important, so dominants lend me your ears. Many times submissives feel uncomfortable telling men and women “no” when they receive unwanted attention. (I’m like that too). We dislike confrontation, but the danger of being like this is that your Little can get taken advantage of in a heartbeat. Please take the time to teach your Little how to stand up for themselves. If (and usually when) they encounter someone giving them attention that they don’t want, suggest that they do the following:

  1. First, tell the person “No” and remind them that you are a taken submissive.
  2. Second, if the person begins to get nasty or hostile, block them on all social media accounts.
  3. Third, inform your dominant of the incident. Your dom will want to know when things like this happen. Not only can they give you emotional reassurance, but they can also “step in” if need be, and protect you.
  4. Fourth, be mindful of who you speak with online. It’s okay to be cautious with people. It’s okay to “vet” people and look at their profile before you begin chatting online.

Lastly, dominants please know that it can be very difficult for Littles to exist on social media platforms. This is especially true for Littles between 18-25 years old. That’s the prime age for predators to target younger (and more inexperienced) Littles and try to pressure them into things that they don’t want. Be a presence in your Little’s online life. You don’t need to stalk their accounts. But comment on their blog. Tweet back on their tweets and have them @ your handle in their tweets. Tag each other in Instagram posts. Make your presence known to every single dominant out there, that your Little is owned, claimed, and taken. (Or in other words… back off!). 😉

III. How to Carry Yourself as a “Taken” Submissive: 

The final point I’d like to mention before we dive into our daily exercise is for my fellow submissives. When you’re out there on social media, there are things you can do to ward off some unwanted attention. The first piece of advice I recommend is to label your profile accounts to visibly show that you’re taken. If your partner has an account, even better. Link them in! The next piece of advice is to walk the fine line between cute and covering up. I know that the world of DDLG often portrays tight onesies, thigh high socks, and diaper bums aplenty… but that is exactly what these schmucks want to see on your body! Cover up a tad. Be mindful of the photos you choose to post. Let me be blunt for a moment, my friends: if you put tits and ass out on the internet, expect to attract attention with a handful of creepers too. Deep down, while it may feel fun and sexy to show some skin in barely-nothing clothing, I’m going to guess that you don’t want Mr. Pervy looking at you with lascivious eyes. There are so many ways to look adorable, cute, “smol”, and still remain covered up enough to protect your dominant’s property. Respect yourself and your dominant by not putting it all out there. ❤

IV. Daily Gentle Guidance Exercise: Supporting Your Little on Social Media: 

Tonight’s daily gentle guidance exercise is to connect with your Little and work together to unite your social media platforms. Have fun as you tag each other in pictures and tweets. Update those profiles to reflect your bond and throw around emojis…. because everyone loves emojis! 😉 Say it loud and proud that you’re together, because that is something to celebrate. The love that you share together is something to celebrate.

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten xx

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