Day 26 of The Dominant’s Den: How to care for your Little on their period.

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Good Evening Friends!

It’s the Captain here tagging in for Kitten. How are you all doing today? I hope you’re all having a magnificent day. It’s evening here, and I’m having Kitten get ready for bed. Kitten and I decided to have me write this piece, since according to her “Daddy, you have a black belt in taking care of me during that time of the month.” That made me think…of the years we have spent together, I have formed my own techniques and methods to help her cope through this delicate period while keeping our relationship going strong. Are you ready to explore some strategies, tips and tricks on how to navigate her cycle? Then let’s dive in.

I. Its natural, and it happens every month.

This might seem obvious when said out loud, but it needs to be said. When your Little is on her period, it does not make her any less clean, sexy and desirable. If anything, your Little needs you more than ever to show her love and affection. The last thing she needs is to feel like she turns you off during this time. Remind her how beautiful she is and how much you desire them. Physical contact helps a lot during these emotional days for her. We’re far removed from old times where sanitary pads or tampons didn’t exist and women had to deal with embarrassing stains showing. As men, we don’t have to deal with having a period each month but I believe we have the responsibility to help our partner through theirs.

Each day, our Littles provide joy, love and reassurances to us when we’re feeling tired from the day or we’re not feeling well. This is our chance to show her that she can rely on us more than ever and you do not feel grossed out at all. It’s just blood, we all have it and it’s not a bad thing.

II. Be prepared and know the signs.

There’s really no excuse to be caught off guard and unprepared for your Little’s period. If you or your Little have a smart phone, there are a lot of apps you can use to track her period. We use an app called, Flo , to help track her cycle. I check on it regularly with her so I know when we can expect her to start. Sometimes, I can tell when she’s near with how her mood changes and how she reacts to certain things. Know the difference when your Little is upset about something or she’s having a hormone induced mood swing! It will save you a lot of headaches later on.

Pull them close, hold them for a solid minute, and let them know that while you cannot fully understand what she’s feeling, you can empathize with what she’s going through. Everybody goes through emotional times but when its her body causing her to feel a whirlwind of emotions, that’s when being her dominant allows you to be her anchor and rock to help her keep calm. It’s not her fault.

III. Intimacy and Sex.

A good number of couples would consider the monthly cycle as an “off-limits” time for intimacy and sex. Now, if your partner does not want any kind of sexual activity, then of course honor her wishes (consent is always key). However, if she is still quite interested in being intimate, then as her dominant, you have to show her that you are not intimidated by the prospect of a little blood. In fact, there are quite a few advantages to having period sex. Here’s some of them:

  • Blood actually serves as a good lubricant.
  • Orgasms help induce her flow to help ease cramps.
  • If you ever had any kinks or fantasies of “Virginal” sex, then this is the perfect time to role play!

Now, I know you must be thinking “But it’s messy!” Easy solution is to keep diaper wipes nearby for clean up for yourself and your Little afterwards. Also you can lay down a towel underneath her before you start and the risk of blood staining the bed is all but nullified. If you’re thinking “But I don’t like the smell of blood” – here’s a tip, light some scented candles. It makes the room smell amazing, and gives a touch of romance as an added bonus. Finally, have your partner go to the bathroom before sex to help minimize the amount of blood shed during penetration. Don’t let her cycle get in the way of having fun!

IV. Daily Gentle Guidance Exercise: Work with your Little in creating a “Period Kit”

For today’s exercise, you are and your Little are assembling a “Period Kit” together. A “Period Kit” is simply a bag or box containing several things that will help your Little cope during her period. As her dominant, it shows how much you care by gently guiding them in getting everything they need ready.  Here are examples of what might be found in your kit to get you started:

  • Chocolates
  • Cookies (or her favorite treat)
  • Wet wipes (for cleaning)
  • A heating pad (helps with cramps)
  • A towel (in case you want to be intimate)
  • Sanitary pads / tampons
  • Juice or tea (favorite drink)
  • Romance / Rom-com movies
  • Disney / Pixar movies
  • Midol or Acetaminophen (to help with cramps)

Work with her on her specific needs or cravings that she might have during this time. Be very understanding and turn a traditionally icky and undesirable time into a bonding experience that brings you closer.

That’s it for tonight, my friends! I hope you enjoyed this post. If you did, make sure to hit that like button and go ahead and leave a comment below on what techniques you and your partner use to help navigate through the monthly cycle. If you’re new to the blog, don’t forget to follow and subscribe to receive more daily content like this in your inbox. Have a wonderful evening and fair winds to you all!

Much love,

Captain Taliron Quinn

6 comments

  1. I really enjoyed reading this particular piece, you two! Periods are something often not discussed and it is something we women face every single month (until menopause). I imagine that the Captain paying attention to your cycles and being extra affectionate during that time makes you feel truly cared for. Great post!

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    1. Thank you, Nora! You’re absolutely correct. I think periods are much less spoken about, but having that constant reassurance is wonderful in our D/s relationship. Plus, I feel like I can just be real whether I’m PMSing or bleeding or feeling whatever I’m feeling at any stage throughout my cycle. 🙂 I hope you’re having a beautiful day, my friend! xx

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    2. Thank you Nora! I’m glad you enjoyed it! You’re right and it’s always nice to be able to shed some light to hardly talked about topics. Having a period is as natural as breathing so it’s nothing to be ashamed of! Hope you’re having a wonderful day!

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