Day 27 of The Dominant’s Den: Do One Thing Everyday to Tap into Cg/l

The Dominant's Den

Good Morning Friends,

Today we’re deviating from the usual format of my posts. Why? Honestly, because I tossed and turned in bed last night. My sleep got wrecked, (or “rekt” as we say in gamer-speak 😉 ). Today is the perfect example of why I have the D/s rule, “do one thing every day to tap into Cg/l”. It’s for days like today. It’s for days when you’re feeling tired and achy. It’s for days when you might feel drained and the last thing you want to do is to listen to cartoons squeaking and giggling in your ears. Today is that kind of day for me. I’m tired! A nap is definitely in order for this afternoon. But before I make space for self-care, I wanted to write this post to pass on some bits of wisdom and helpful information.

It’s normal to not feel Little or Dominant every single day. There are some days where you just can’t bring yourself to fall into the Cg/l mindset. It’s in these moments where I encourage you to dig deep and do one thing that resonates with your dom or sub side. Just one. Pick something easy.

Today I will be snuggling up to a Disney + movie until my eyelids slowly droop.

Having an anchor to your Cg/l side is important. It’s easy to get caught up with work, bills, kids, chores, etc. It’s easy to feel flat exhausted at the end of the day and before you know it, days have gone by without going into Little Space. Trust me, been there, done that. It’s not fun. So, Daddy and I sat down and made a pact to do one thing every day that brings us back to our Cg/l mindset.

For him, today he has back to back meetings all day long. I know he’s going to be bushed by the time he gets home tonight. But this morning we discussed that his one thing to anchor to his Daddy mindset is to send me my daily task email. And he did! For those few precious minutes as he was crafting it up, he was able to dive into feeling like my Daddy. He could focus on each section of the email and choose tasks that were achievable. Then, with a click of a button it was sent to me and he was back to the grind of work.

Find that tiny activity that resonates with you as a dominant or little. Maybe you call your sub on their lunch break and just have a chat. Maybe you text and give them one simple task to do that will please you immensely. Life gets difficult and busy, but we don’t need to turn “off” our lifestyle simply because our adult responsibilities demand our time. When life gets busy, plan. When things steal your time, get more organized! 🙂

Here are a few more ideas to help you tap into your dom-head space:

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten xx


  1. So much this! I’ve heard it from submissive and dominant both of them saying life gets too busy, stuff gets in the way, and before you know what your dynamic is dropped to the wayside. I completely agree with this! One thing goes a long way.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. I haven’t! But it’s on my “To Watch” List for sure. 🙂 Keeping it totally real with you, I’ve been watching “Next In Fashion” on Netflix. *blushes* I do love a good fashion competition show, hehe!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Fashion is great in the right place. I am a Leo, after all.
        I have to wait to see the Mandalorian here… won’t be available for me until a little while. I also am trying to get a Netflix show called Bordertown. Rick and Morty is about the height of my watching for now.

        Liked by 2 people

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s