Day 30 of The Dominant’s Den: Moving Forward with Confidence and a Plan + What to Expect in February Here on the Blog

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Good Evening Friends!

Yay! We made it to the weekend! 🙂 I hope you all are doing well. Tonight is the final post of “The Dominant’s Den”. Tonight we’re going to discuss moving forward with confidence and a plan. When people hear the word “planning” and “relationship” they usually cringe. They think that planning kills spontaneity. But tonight I’d like to argue how beneficial planning can be for a D/s relationship. Are you ready? Then, let’s dive in!

I. Planning Out Little Adventures for the Holidays: 

When it comes to the holidays I’m a bit of a planning junkie. I love getting crafty and creative and if you have a Little who is creative like me, then you know what I’m talking about. One fantastic way to connect with your Little is to plan out the holidays that you want to celebrate over the course of the year. Give yourselves something to get excited about and to look forward to. People call the tail end of Fall and Winter “The Holiday Season”, but really… the holidays are all year long! Don’t believe me? Watch this:

  • January- New Year’s
  • February- Valentine’s Day AND Groundhog Day
  • March- St. Patrick’s Day
  • April- Easter AND Earth Day
  • May- May Day/ Beltane AND Mommy’s Day AND Star Wars “May the 4th Be with You” Day
  • June- Daddy’s Day!
  • July- U.S. Independence Day
  • August- Summer Olympics
  • September- Mabon/ Autumnal Equinox
  • October- Halloween (psst! And Penny Berry’s birthday tehehe!)
  • November- U.S. Thanksgiving AND Dia de los Muertos
  • December- Christmas AND Hanukkah

So you see? There’s always something to celebrate! 🙂 Plan fun activities with your Little (or stay tuned here for tons of activity ideas as we dance our way through 2020). 😉

II. Plan Little Space Time: 

It may sound cheesy to do, but scheduling little space time for your sub is quite helpful. Life gets busy, but when you intentionally make space for your sub to go into Little Space you both will reap the benefits. Your Cg/l relationship will thrive. You will demonstrate to your Little that time as Cg/l matters to you. So, go for it! 🙂 Sync up those Google calendars together and begin planning time to play together. Have your Little design a wall calendar that you can look at daily in your home. Find a fun way to keep your activities organized while still making plenty of space for play.

III. What to Expect Here in February: 

If you’re still scratching your head for ideas of where to begin planning fun things for your little, sit back and relax, my friend because I’ve got you covered. Tomorrow is February! Can you believe it?! Wow, time flies when we’re having fun. When I was designing my February blog posts and activities, my mind drifted back to Valentine’s when I was in high school. Let’s see if any of you can relate to this quick story… 😉

When I was in high school there were people selling carnations for students to buy for their friends or boyfriends and girlfriends. There were designated colors which further indicated what type of flower you were holding. A yellow carnation signified friendship. A pink carnation meant that someone had a crush on you. And a red carnation meant that someone loved you. As you can imagine, the popular girls wandered around with bouquets by the dozen with pinks, reds, and yellows overflowing in their arms. They giggled sheepishly at the stuffed animals and chocolate boxes that filled their lockers in between class time.

The rest of us, myself included, would nervously eye the student flower delivery person wondering if we were going to get a single flower. I think one year I got a yellow carnation from a teacher who took pity on the whole class and decided to hand one out to everyone equally. Yeah, we felt lame. The whole concept was horrible, but it did make me think about how much Valentine’s had become commercialized.

So designing my posts and activities this year I wanted to do something that would make an impact of love, without the focus being chocolate or flowers. This is why I created, “Littles Who Love: 29 Acts of Kindness”. Every day in the month of February I will be documenting various ways to do a random act of kindness. My hope is that it inspires you to do one in your local community too! Let’s pull away from the plushies, chocolates, and conversation hearts for a moment, (I know… they’re so cute!!), and let’s focus on spreading the meaning of love and compassion as much as we can. ❤

In addition, you’ll find some fun, new printables coming this month to add to the Free Printables page for every Little to enjoy!

I believe that February is going to be a fantastic month filled with love, joy, and community. I can’t wait to celebrate it with all of YOU!

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this final post in the series. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here in the morning for the next post!

Much love,

~Kitten xx


  1. Fantastic as ever, chicka! So proud of you. I’ve bought Wolfie some Whisky for Valentine’s day and I’ve been umming and arring about having a look for a new toy or two.. well, it IS Valentine’s Day! 😉 Hehe xx

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