Good Morning Friends!
We’re back with another installment of the “Sex in Little Space” series. A big thank you to everyone who smashed that like button and reached out to me for a copy of “The DDLG Busy Book”. Your books are on the way and I hope you have many, wonderful hours enjoying them!
Today I want to discuss oral sex because it’s often a part of every intimate relationship. Looking back on my own experiences with oral sex, for years there were things that I wasn’t aware of. I didn’t know what natural products would enhance oral sex. I didn’t know what to expect, and for the longest time I felt nervous about that single moment: do I spit…. or swallow? Like many people out there, when you’re “down” on your partner with your mouth covering their pubic area, there is a level of anticipation for the moment that they climax. Will they shoot into your mouth suddenly? Will they burst forth like a dam, or trickle like a tiny stream? Will it taste good, or will it make you gag in the back of your mouth? Before I had years of experience, I admit that these questions flooded my mind and I wasn’t too keen to go “south of the border” with my mouth.
So, today I want to share some tips and tricks that I’ve learned along the way in an effort to help you reach the decision that’s right for you. I’m not here to tell you whether to spit or swallow. That’s completely up to you. ❤ However, there are some things that you and your partner can do to make the moment more enjoyable. Are you ready to learn? Then, let’s dive in! 🙂
I. What You Eat Matters:
The first time that I discovered that your diet and the taste of your bodily fluids was connected, my mind was blown. But it’s true! The foods that you consume have a direct impact on the way your body tastes and smells. If you eat a meat-heavy diet, your fluids will taste saltier. If you stay very hydrated with water, and consume a high amount of fruit and fruit juice, your fluids will taste sweet! Now I know you might be thinking, “is she for real? Is this urban myth really true?”. Yes! It’s absolutely true. There have been many research studies done to break down the taste and components of what semen and vaginal fluids is like from person to person. (It’s actually quite interesting! 🙂 ). But if you’re curious, basically the research states that all food and drink that you consume goes through an excretory process within the body. You sweat, urinate, and defecate to get rid of food, waste, and minerals in the body. So, too, do you also excrete these minerals through your genital fluids.
Pro Tip: Begin consuming more fruit and fruit juice several days before you and your partner plan to have oral sex. Be sure to stay very hydrated as well. By the time you’re ready to connect together, your body will be flushed with beneficial nutrients and you’ll taste as sweet as a pineapple!
II. Pubic Grooming and Other Hygiene Suggestions:
For years I sat there, (like many of you, I’m sure 😉 ), with those prickly, itchy, post-shaving bumps on my pubic mound. Finally my OBGYN told me that shaving your pubic region is actually more harmful than healthy! I was astonished, but obediently I began leaving my vagina alone. That is, until the hair grew back and I frowned with disappointment. As a sex-driven society we are so programmed to think that no hair = sexy. But we’re mammals! We have body hair. (Some even have a fetish for body hair! 😉 ). As the bikinis get tinier and the swim-shorts get tighter… there isn’t a lot of room to leave much hair down there. Right?
Enter your new best friend: genital clippers. It’s sleek. It won’t hack your skin open. And it keeps your area tidy and neat down there. I highly recommend you investing in a pair of clippers to trim back your pubic hair. That way you won’t have to worry about your partner diving into a bush, or being nervous about the way your pubic hair smells (as it traps in heat and sweat).
After you trim your pubic region, try applying a little coconut oil to the area. You will smell fantastic and if you use coconut oil in that region regularly, it will soften and moisturize your skin in a gentle, natural way. Argon oil is another natural moisturizer to try and it has many medicinal benefits as well.
III. What to Do if Your Sub Doesn’t Want to Swallow:
So you’re laying there with your partner. The mood is set and they are about to place their mouth down there. Suddenly, you are informed that they don’t want to swallow your fluids. What do you do? How do you feel? Over the years I have had this discussion with many friends. I asked, “what would you do if your partner didn’t want to swallow your semen?”. At first, they were taken aback by the question because they had seen adult film stars willingly (and eagerly) open their mouths yearning for a load. But then they let the thought settle in. How would they feel if that happened? Some of my friends said that they would be disappointed, because they would feel like their fluids were viewed as “dirty” by their partner. Others said that they wouldn’t mind. Still others said that they might try to encourage or convince their partner to try it at least once. What would YOU do if you were in that situation? Here are some tips I would encourage you to consider ❤ :
- First, know that your partner not wanting to swallow is not because you are unclean or dirty. Even if you have the most meat-heavy diet, your bodily fluids are not a reflection of you as a person.
- Second, talk with your partner about their reluctance towards swallowing… but don’t press them to do so. Everything should always be consensual, even swallowing your fluids.
- Third, think about keeping a towel handy for when your partner wants to spit out the cum. They can turn their head and discreetly spit into the towel. This will keep the moment moving and not place much emphasis on discarding your cum.
IV. Jelqing and Other Tips to Enhance Oral Sex:
The first time that The Captain told me about jelqing, I thought he was talking about an exercise program. “I want to try jelqing together” he said. I thought it was some form of CrossFit! How little I knew back then! (lol). While jelqing is the act of gently stretching the penis with the intention of making it thicker and longer, the act of “milking” is something we all can incorporate to enhance sexual pleasure. If you use a natural form of lubricant, such as coconut oil (I know… I’m a fan *blushes*), then you can transition between milking your partner to oral sex without worry about putting something harmful in your mouth! Begin by using your hands to tenderly stroke your partner’s penis over and over in a fluid, repeating action. Roll the head of the penis in your palm at the end of each stroke. Then, when you’re ready, switch to oral sex.
Here are a few other natural products to try during oral sex:
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