Good Morning Friends!
We’re kicking off a new week, and today I want to write about an experience that the Captain and I have been discussing lately: sometimes… your dom just can’t dominate! It’s Spring here on the farm and that means that the Captain is suffering from allergies… a lot! Yes, my dear husband suffers from seasonal allergies like many of you out there. He takes his daily medication, but still he’s sniffling, putting in eye drops, and blowing his nose akin to having a cold. It’s rough.
Just the other day I was feeling especially Little. I felt playful and wanted my Daddy to interact with me deep in the head-space. But one look at my husband and I knew there was no way that he was in the mood to feel playful. He was just trying to get through 30 minutes without feeling congested! It made me reflect on how much pressure dominants endure in a D/s relationship. You’re expected to be “on” quite a bit. While there are many dynamics where the play sessions are scheduled, and therefore both parties can plan when they need to be “on”, if you’re living the lifestyle 24/7 it isn’t like that. Personally, the Captain and I slip in and out of the head space throughout each and every day. We don’t plan our play sessions so much as they happen spontaneously here and there.
So, when I saw my husband unable to be in dom-mode I felt empathy and compassion. Though I wanted to be connected to him in our D/s roles, it was time that I shifted gears a bit. I realized in that moment that I had a choice: I could feel down about the loss of not being able to have my Daddy when I wanted, or I could nurse my Daddy through his allergy symptoms with a tender, (and Little!) hand. I chose the later. ❤
Suddenly I became the most playful, happy nurse he had ever seen. I giggled smearing a bit of Vicks vapor rub on the bottom of his nose. 🙂 We hopped in the shower together and this time I was the one sculpting his hair into funny looks, while washing away all of the pollen on his skin. It wasn’t a shift in power so much as it was a moment to give service without a lot of guidance.
Which brings me to the point of today’s post. 🙂 Sometimes your dominant won’t be able to dominate… and that’s okay!
Use those few, rare moments as an opportunity to further demonstrate your love, loyalty, and service. Care for your dominant in every capacity as they need. If your dom is having an “off day” and they need to just vent things out, be there. If they feel ill, help nurse them back to health. This time of caring for my husband not only reflects our vows of “in sickness and in health”, but it also reflects my love for him as my Daddy, my partner, and my very best friend.
I know this post is short and sweet, but I just wanted to pass my thoughts along and hope that they give you some food for thought and a smile. I hope you all have a beautiful start to the week, and I will see you back here for the final installment of the “Sex in Little Space” series. Don’t forget to hit that like button if you enjoyed this post, smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!