The Littlest Tomboy, Part 3: The Many Faces of Feminine Energy


Good Morning Friends!

I hope you all are staying happy and healthy! I had to remind myself that it’s Wednesday this morning (hehe) and that we’re almost to the weekend again. The days have blurred together, but thank God we are all safe and resting in our home. Today we’re going to discuss feminine energy, because each one of us has varying forms of feminine energy we express. Sometimes we feel like a badass leader taking charge for all the world to see. Other times we are the brains behind a project. Still other times we slip into the nurturing role and care for those around us. We shift and move, using our feminine energy as needed, regardless of our gender. Energy is energy. It ebbs, flows, and manifests in so many beautiful ways. Are you ready to explore this topic with me? Then, let’s dive in! ❤

I. The Princess Warrior:

For the longest time I wondered if I was submissive at all. Could I be a submissive and still take charge in my life? You bet I can! And so can you! 🙂 In truth, that warrior energy that lives within us all isn’t indicative of your ability to be a submissive. In fact, it can actually enhance it. This aspect of feminine energy is strong, organized, determined, and a leader. How many times have you seen a person who is a leader and thought that they were sexy? 😉 There is sex appeal in being strong! We can find role models of princess warriors all around us. From the farthest reaches of the galaxy where Wonder Woman serves, to the fictional (but oh-so-relatable) life of Princess Leia, strong women have stepped into the limelight to demonstrate how healthy, being strong can be! Disney jumped on the bandwagon, shifting the image of their princesses and created a fiery redhead with a thick Scottish accent who decided to fight for her own destiny… Merida. Studio Ghibli followed suit and created “San”, the girl raised by wolves in “Princess Mononoke”.

But we can also look to real life heroes for inspiration when it comes to being proud and strong. Queen Lydia Liliuokalani was the last reigning queen of the free Hawaiian islands before the U.S. colonized and took control of them permanently. She led her people to stand proud as a distinct, separate part from the United States despite losing their freedom. And Amelia Earhart defied all odds to be the first women to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. These people exuded strong, “princess warrior” energy that we can all look up to, and relate with in our own lives.

II. The Compassionate Lover: 

The next area of energy that I’d like to discuss is named “The Compassionate Lover”. There are times where we soften ourselves. We shift our body language, tone, speech, and mindset to being more nurturing. There are situations that call for us to be tender, giving, and comforting. In your Cg/l relationship, you’ll find that just because your submissive serves you doesn’t mean that you won’t depend on them. Quite the contrary! There will be times where you seek your Little’s compassion and love, as if drinking cold water from a well. You will turn to them for nourishment, and in turn their energy will shift from being “babied” to extending their love back to you. People who exemplify the compassionate lover on a larger scale include: Mother Teresa (who ran a hospice for the sick and dying in India all of her life), Princess Diana (who was an incredible philanthropist), Malala Yousafzai (who used her own trauma of being shot by the Taliban to encourage girls to get a higher education), and Jane Goodall (who pioneered research on the correlations between humans and chimpanzees, gorillas, and apes).

III. The Wise Bookworm: 

Another part of feminine energy within is the “bookworm” that lies within us all. We are curious beings. We delight in the discovery of something new. Many Littles are the epitome of intellectual, wise beings! We love to tinker, explore, and create. We are creative and imaginative as we regress into the mindset. We find magic in the mundane. We are also patient and understanding with our partners, another trait of the “bookworm” energy. I encourage you to create an environment for your Little that allows them the freedom to learn. If your Little loves math and science, place items in their space to nourish those interests. Give them a telescope for their birthday. Take them to a planetarium (or your local science museum!). Allow that energy to burst forth from them because being smart is sexy! Personally, the Captain knows how much I love to sit quietly and watch TED talks. I relish learning something new, especially from someone who has a life experience attached to the topic they’re sharing. As such, we snuggle up together and tune into talks of all kinds. Support your little in their interest.

Push them towards role models who embody this love of learning, just as they do. Some excellent role models include: Belle from “Beauty and the Beast”, Hermione from “Harry Potter”. Hedy Lamarr (who created the first primitive invention of the bluetooth in the 1940s!), Frida Khalo (one of the most famous Mexican female painters), Marie Curie (a physicist who discovered radium and polonium), and Mayim Bialik (an actress who defied odds and got her Ph.D in Neuroscience. She has gone on to use her degrees in Neuroscience and Jewish Studies to play roles (ahem, “The Big Bang Theory”), to encourage girls to get into math and science.

IV. The Quiet Mouse: 

The final sector of feminine energy that I’d like to discuss is that soft, quiet space within. There are times when we feel the need to be still. We seek solace from the noise of everyday life. We retreat to the bathroom for a few seconds of self-isolation… within self-isolation. 😉 We are introspective, empathetic, understanding, calm, and independent. We seek activities that allow us to be independent, because deep down we crave some quiet space to work and think. All of us have this part within us. It merely shifts in varying degrees. Your Little will crave time to be with themselves sometimes, and this is completely normal. While we all talk about play sessions and the importance of little space time, I also encourage you to remember to give your submissive time to be independent for personal growth. Everyone needs personal space.

We can look to these people as inspiration for remembering the importance of being quiet and introspective: Jane Austen (famous novelist from the 1800s who most famously wrote “Pride and Prejudice”), Junko Tabei (a Japanese mountaineer who became the first woman to hike the highest 7 peaks of the world including Mt. Everest), Julia Butterfly-Hill (an activist who silently lived in Luna, a 150+ year old redwood tree in Northern California to stop a logging company from tearing down the forest. By the way, it worked 🙂 ), and Ruth Bader Ginsburg (U.S. Supreme Justice who currently sits on the bar and has spent the better part of her career eliminating gender-based stereotyping!).

All of us have this energy within us. Allow yourself to express every part of yourself regardless of the masculine or feminine qualities. You are who you are, you love who you love, you express how you express, and that is enough. YOU are enough!

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Kitten xx

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